Choosing a bridal party

Include those who you are the closest to currently

Think of those you'll continue to have frequent contact with during this pandemic

Only choose your nearest and dearest closest people in your life currently. Where you live vs them is irrelevant. The same applies to your guest list. Don't invite people from your childhood if you are not currently close to them.

Include the ones you're closest with

If you’re not close to them, don’t have a lot of contact with them, don’t ask them to do this.

If you asked each of these people to be part of your bridal party and they said no, would you be indifferent or upset because you'd miss them? Basically, ask those who you are closest to. Distance, sex, etc shouldn't be a factor.

You should ask your nearest and dearest friends. If that’s one person from that group, great. If it’s all of them, great. Their gender shouldn’t be a factor and definitely shouldn’t exclude them from prewedding
events with the rest of the bridal party.

The closer the better — but follow your heart. If your wedding is not until sept 2022, I’d give it some more time to see how things play out as the current world climate changes. You may find yourself spending more time with the high school crew as things open up, or you may realize you’ve drifted to a point where they’re not THE person you want by your side day of — not that the friendship will be bad just you may find yourself talking to them less and less or more and more! So feel it out as time goes by .


For me, I wanted only those I was INSANELY close to with me , knowing they’d be with me all day, and I might be stressed or emotional etc etc so I wanted only my crew who were basically my ride or die, seen me at my lowest lows and highest highs — 3 girls, each of whom I had lived with at some point or another. I was very happy not to have included the couple others on my “maybe” list that are people I love but I know that I wouldn’t have felt as loose and free and comfortable stressing my way through the morning around . I personally think there’s something nice about a small, intimate party of very best friends! (Plus it saves money— bouquets, gifts, etc)
Regarding the bachelorette, the guestlist can be whatever you want it to be, although I think it tends to be rude or hurtful to exclude someone in the wedding party, so, it’s a good rule of thumb to include your whole bridal party (men included if they’re included!). But, if these friends aren’t in your bridal party, you can still invite them (with or without the guys!) to your bachelorette.

Yes ask the people that's close to you.

Ask only those you currently have a real, solid relationship with... and don't ask until next year. There's no need for a bridal party this far out.