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Dj Tanner, on July 4, 2020 at 5:48 PM

Sort of wedding unrelated: What’s everyone’s take on having children??
We live in crazy times. FH and I talk about having kids a lot. He loves the name Ruby for a girl lol. But there’s also a big part of me that thinks having children may be a terrible idea. We have been talking about getting preggo right after the wedding, but am I missing something here. For those of you that have had children (I know you don’t regret it) but would you have maybe done something differently, or waited a certain amount of time? What are some of the pros and cons that maybe I’m just not considering? If any of you chose to not have children what were/are your reasonings for it? There is a small part of me that is unsure if I’m fully ready to handle the task.

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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on July 7, 2020 at 2:58 PM
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That’s very smart to do especially because of covid
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Martha · on July 7, 2020 at 6:05 PM
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My FH and I would love to have children, I am hesitant to wait due to health condition that can worsen as I get older. This makes me want to get it done and over with but then that puts stress on our finances and our home plans and business plans. Right now even our wedding plans are on hold for our home plans. I'm 28 he is 34, I'd like for us to have a child before we are 40 for sure, but I'm afraid to wait to long and then not being able to enjoy being a mother because of health. Adoption is something we have not touched but perhaps maybe our option.
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Dj Tanner · on July 7, 2020 at 6:39 PM
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Yes, I too worry about my age and I’m 30 now and want to have them by 35. I also have thought about adopting as a possibility too but only if I’m unable to conceive. From the research that I’ve done, if I wanted to adopt from birth, I believe it is a 1 baby to every 30 couples on a waiting list and I would hate to be able to conceive and possibly take the chance away from someone who can’t have children. I’ve also looked into the foster process as well as far as adopting older kids and sometimes it can be a really heart wrenching ordeal because typically the parents/or parent are usually still involved and if during your foster process, the parents resolve whatever issues they’re having and they want their child back, the courts will usually grant the child back to the birthparents. Nevertheless it’s always an option.
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Anna · on July 8, 2020 at 7:48 AM
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Fostering can be hard and it’s not for everyone, but as a teacher, I see it in a different light, just like I’m given my students for a year to love and serve them, then I see any child in my home as an opportunity to love them for as long as I’m gifted them for. Even birth children can become temporary blessings. I have a friend who has lost three of her children and one grandchild now. It’s heart wrenching for sure, but we’re never promised tomorrow and we’re never promised tomorrow will be the same as today. I think it’s really sad for someone to not consider helping out a child in need because they don’t want the hurt of having to let them go back home.
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