Children of Family Only: Proper etiquette and wording on invitation?

Don't put it on the invitation. Address the invites to only those people invites and put "we have reserved ___ number of seats in your honor" on the RSVP card.

I'm having adults only other than the kids in my bridal party. It comes out expensive when kids are included. On my invitations, at the bottom I have 21+ little ones can sometimes take away from the moment and they dont understand at young ages.

Hope this helps!

If you are inviting the whole family, then on the invitation envelope put "The Smith Family". This implies the children are invited as well. For the rest, only put the names of the adults i.e. "Mr. and Mrs. John Smith". On the RSVP cards, indicate how many seats are reserved for the family, whether it's just 2 or all of them.

I also had a friend that put the info on her wedding website. In her FAQ's portion she had that question and then a response that was along the lines of "We of course love all your kids and would love to include them all but we want you to be able to party and enjoy yourself without having to also look after your little ones, so treat yourself to a night out with us to celebrate! (If they are in the wedding this does not apply of course)

I figure if someone asks me or my mom we can just politely let them know that we would prefer no children (for the reason of giving them a fun night out!) but we are not going to put anything on the invites except the names of the people attending which will match the online RSVP that we have to prevent people RSVP'ing for extra people.

@Mrs.Anthony 2 Be - did you really put that on your invites? If so that is incredibly tacky.

Yes I did! To your family it's tacky. But mine culture sweetie it's not! Because I have a big family. Everyone has 3-6 kids in one household. I have a capacity and with children I will be about 30 over my limit. My family members are actually happy to attend my adult only wedding! Thank you very much @gymRat to each is own!

Imo, it should be all or nothing with the kids. Not really fair to invite some but not others.

Why not just limit it to kids in your wedding?

It really should be all or none, and @MrsAnthony, your family doesn't have its own culture. A country has a culture, not a family. @Gymrat is right. You NEVER specify who isn't invited on an invitation. It's rude. You indicate on the envelopes who IS invited, and if people are dumb enough that they don't get the hint, you call and gently make it clear to them who WAS invited. Period.

If you'd bothered to read literally ANY etiquette website, you'd have known that.

It's your wedding, not a damn nightclub.

It is not right to pick and choose what kids can come and what kids cant come. Its either ALL or NONE.

Why do people use "sweetie" when they're being snarky? Like why do you think it's cute to talk down to someone?

There are subcultures in a country. Ugh. people