Children leave reception by a certain time?

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I agree with this. Most of the time people let their kids stay up late for special occasions like a wedding. It hasn't interfered with the party atmosphere at least at any of the weddings I've attended.

I’ve been considering what we are going to do about children and was somehow thinking maybe hire a babysitter for the day and have a little separate room for them if possible. Just a thought.

Yes this is a little rude, if the kids leave the parents will have to also. How about just saying adult only reception? This will please your dad, because you’re allowing kids to the ceremony if necessary, and most people just won’t bring their kids at all if they know they’re not invited to the reception.

I don't think you can ask that the children leave at a certain hour. You also can't invite kids to the ceremony but not to the receptionn.
Both are super rude. I never cared much about wedding etiquette, but this would really cross a line.

Yeah, there's no polite way to word this since it's a rude request. Have you thought about hiring a babysitter and doing a "kids room?"

Thanks for the suggestions and comments. I didn’t feel it was necessarily rude but y’all put me in my place on that one 😳

I’m kinda sorry I even asked for friendly advice. Cause very few of these responses were friendly at all. 😅

View Quoted Comment No dont feel sorry to ask for advice girl. I completely understand how it can make you feel. I've been on here for a few months since I'm planning my wedding as well for April 2020. Some responses can be overwhelming but it's just everyone's opinions.
Honestly sometimes I dont see what I'm doing until someone really tells me how it is. We are just trying to help you. Continue asking if you have questions and listen to other opinions and follow what you feel is right.

I never heard of this before. It’s either you invite them for the whole thing or not invite them at all. If asking them to leave earlier it just makes things complicated and too messy for the parents. We only invited immediate family’s children but we didn’t tell the parents that they would have to leave by a certain time because that is strange to me. What’s the reason for having them leave earlier than before the end??

Honestly it will go by SO FAST you won’t even notice the kids there or what time it is. My photographer got pictures of kids running around (3 under 3yrs old) that I didn’t even know were there because it was so busy and I didn’t even see them.

View Quoted Comment Yup. I third this sentiment.

We are only inviting immediate family kids. We have 5 kids 10 and under ourselves and then my sister has 3 little ones and my SIL has 5 older kids. That's all that we are inviting. We arent giving anyone a curfew and I dont think I that is something you can do without being rude or basically telling families they have to leave at a certain time. I think your best bet is to not invite the kids at all but if your dad insists then ask him to cover a babysitter for them all after a certain time or some sort of separate entertainment

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry Amers!! I've been on this site for awhile and it can feel harsh sometimes. Dont worry, any decision you make will work out for you! You will know in your gut what to do. Take it with a grain of salt.

View Quoted Comment This was going to be my suggestion. I've been to a couple bridal shows and they have people who offer babysitting services they bring the things to keep the kids busy you just provide the room.

That's annoying. I'd tell your dad to reconsider if you can. I have a no kids rule and there 10 kids anyway (yep). And i dont have a time rule because the whole thing ends by 9. (Cant wait)

View Quoted Comment It’s all good! Thanks for your help. I just started reading comments and was a little overwhelmed with the judgement for even considering it lol.

View Quoted Comment We are having a winter wedding in the middle of February, in Michigan. Both of our families REALLY like to party, so it was kind of a safety net that people won’t drink and drive with their kids, especially on potentially icy or snowy roads. Also kind of a nudge for parents to think “okay if the kids have to leave by 9, is there any point in bringing them at all?” But they’re still invited and no one can say they weren’t.

View Quoted Comment This is SUPER true! Thanks for the reassurance. This did kind of open my eyes and I’ve decided to just leave the kids there all night. I have 18 first cousins under the age of 10 so I just worry they’ll be running around under peoples feet and crying and screaming because they’re fighting with each other. It’ll all work out in the end!

I agree that it could be tough to do this. It's not up to you to tell people how to parent their children. But I did go to a wedding where they hired a babysitter/nanny, and the kids went to a separate room with her to sleep or have a snack when they got too tired.

View Quoted Comment I’m considering the babysitter idea, but I’ll probably end up just leaving it up to the parents discretion. I have 18 first cousins under the age of 10, and about 10 close family friends children under 15. My fiancé doesn’t really love screaming children, so we didn’t want to invite them at all. We’re getting VERY close to our venue’s max capacity, so we’ve both had to cut out college friends just to keep the numbers manageable. But when it comes down to it, how do you not invite your first cousins to your wedding? It’s a tough situation all around. We’ll get there. Thanks for your suggestion!