Childless weddings???

People do child-free weddings all the time. I'm all for it. Just address the invitation to the couple and on the RSVP card maybe put "we have reserved 2 seats in your honor" or whatever. People will get the hint.

Adult-only weddings are A-Ok. Just be prepared for potentially fewer guests. There are all sorts of reasons parents might need to RSVP 'no' for an adults-only wedding. If they can't find or afford a babysitter, their child gets sick, they have very young children they aren't comfortable leaving with someone else for an extended period of time, etc.

Lots of people have adult-only weddings. Just keep in mind that if you get declines from people who can't/don't want to find childcare, you need to respond gracefully. No "why can't you leave your damn kids at home" and lots of "I totally understand but we'll miss you."

Thanks! So my next question, I have two children who will be in the wedding... Would guests find this offensive that they would be attending the reception? Or would it be understood that they were part of the wedding and will be there? One is a nephew and the other is a BM daughter.

No, your guests should certainly understand that children in the wedding (or your own children) are an exception.

I am doing a childfree wedding. I consider it like this if people are being difficult and challenging the idea , would you take your kids to an event with an open bar or a dance party???? Also people have a long time to find a sitter if you let them know in advance. May have a flower girl, but to not upset people, she will only attend the ceremony then will be leaving. I also think its perfectly fine if children in your wedding ceremony attend the reception, do what you want !

Im doing a child free reception and I will have two kids at that time.. Children can be very, you know! Lol

I had an adult-only wedding and we had no issues from guests. I have been to many weddings and all or nearly all of them were child-free.

We had a few declines because of our decision, but we were prepared for that. Also, childless implies a that you miss having them, child-free or adult only implies that you are happy with the decision.

Be strong in your decision, and make no exceptions other than those children who are in the wedding.

I'm doing a child free wedding, also. The only children that will be there are our nieces and nephews (who will mostly be in the wedding) and older teenage cousins.

Thank you all for your input!! I didn't want to make people feel like I was leaving out their children but apparently child free weddings are more popular than I thought! Since its an old idea and not a new trend I feel like it will go over smoothly! Thanks (:

Basically having a child free wedding minus my flower girls.

The ONLY children invited to my ceremony are the two flower girls (my nieces), my ringer bearer (my nephew), and my Matron of Honor's baby who will be 9 months old because I am sure all of my family will want to see the baby (I just hope the new baby doesn't steal my shine). I have considered inviting them to the ceremony and then saying no children at the reception, but really are 4 kids going to be that big of a deal? I just am not a fan of kids, and these are the only 4 kids I can deal with haha. The problem with inviting them to the ceremony and not the reception is there is really no one to watch the kids. My nephew is from Seattle and both my brother and his wife are attending the wedding, as well as my parents and his wife's parents. So who would be able to watch my nephew while they are all at the reception? Same with my flower girl. I don't know what to dooooooooo. A lot of the people I am inviting have kids, and I don't know how to politely give the hint that NO kids are invited. Some people don't get the hint when it's them and just their spouse's name and think everyone is invited including the kids.

I'm doing the same thing and I DO NOT feel one bit guilty! At first I did, but I realized that I will never forgive myself if there is a screaming baby during my ceremony lol. It's your day and you can do whatever you want. I understand brides wanting the children in their lives to be at their wedding and how watching them dance can be cute and fun, but I personally do not want that at all. Never have I been to a wedding with children where there was not a baby crying or screaming during the ceremony. I LOVE children and have many of them in my life, but I personally believe that weddings should be for adults and children cause stress at big events like that.

On my RSVP's, I am putting "We have reserved __ seats in your honor" so there is no question about it. And if people don't take that hint (I believe some people won't) I am also putting "We respectfully request that this be an adults only event." at the bottom. Straightforward and polite!

I have kids and honestly even before a person says kids are welcomed I always assume it is a kid free event. Kids just don't belong some places in my honest opinion. I think as long as your guest have time to schedule a sitter things should be fine

My family has been hosting adult mostly weddings, since the late 1960s, including my parents' wedding in the late 1970s. There were only 2 first cousins under 18 (both in high school) and two flower girls.

We invited 250 adults and 225 attended. We accepted online responses and heard from all but one couple, 10 days before the due date. One couple said they couldn't get a babysitter, given 10 months notice with the save the date. The woman is a friend of my MIL and she mentioned the one child has behavior problems, which is probably why they have babysitter issiues. Another couple boycotted, because the centers of their universe weren't invited, and refused to even acknowledge the invitation or wedding. I let my grandmother track them down - her side of the family. A few years later and people are still talking about what a fabulous time they had, at our wedding.

I love the invitation ideas you guys are giving me!! Thanks for the pep talk! I'm going to talk to my fiance when I get home from work. He's all worried we will offend people but now I have so much more information to give him! (:

I'm debating on this issue as well, I've seen some horrible things, kids was running around and knocked the cake over on the table and fell to the floor! Don't won't that to happen to me

@chandra t exactly!!

Yes do the "we have x number of seats reserved in your honor". I addressed invites to adults and some wrote in kids.