Childless Wedding

View Quoted Comment That’s enough ☺️

We originally considered having kids at the wedding, since many of our friends and family members have children, but eventually we felt like the adults would enjoy themselves more if they didn't have to babysit their kids the whole time they are there. Only kids allowed are nieces and nephews.

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Tell them she can't come and that you're sorry, but you've been clear your wedding is child free.

Good lord, I am shocked at the behavior of kids in this thread!
I raised a couple and one of them is an extremely strong willed red head and I can’t imagine that behavior. I’ve never seen kids act like that at weddings!
But to answer the question, from reading here it seems like most weddings are child free these days.

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I would have let the bride know that if she needed me as a witness in small claims court, I'd be there. And if I had been the bride, I would have taken them to small claims court even if it cost more to sue them than the cost of the cake. It's the principal of the thing.

And to OP, I agree, no kids!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely no kids ✌️

Hell yeah we’re not allowing kids! We gave parents plenty of lead time and suggestions and resources so they could decide what’s best for their family. We did invite kiddos to hang on fri and sun, just not the big day on Sat. Our parent friends (which is 80% of our guests) were totally cool with it. For our group of friends, upfront and timely communication —- and offering resources seemed to help.

We didn’t have any kids at our wedding aside from the 3 who were part of the wedding party. Surprisingly, all of our guests with kids took the news really really well as they wanted a stress-free few hours. Our friends either came alone while the other parent stayed at home with the kids, or if they came as a couple, they left before the very end of the reception to relieve their sitters. We got really lucky, as we know this can cause tons of drama.

Just don't hold it against anyone who can't attend because of their kids. It might be harder to find childcare on a holiday.

View Quoted Comment You definitely have a point

View Quoted Comment Tons of drama and sometimes angry family members

Yes! I just ordered my invitations today and my information insert says “Adults only event. We kindly ask that you do not bring your children. We want you to enjoy yourself!”
It’s actually hypocritical considering our own children (4, 13, 14, 16, 18) and our nieces and nephews (3,3,5,8) will be IN the wedding. Not that I need to explain to anyone, but it’s important that our immediate family in it’s entirety is present. Still super annoying, considering the little ones definitely test our patience but I certainly don’t want that added stress on our guests. Besides, all of the wonderful “babysitting grandmas” and aunts will be present so it wasn’t very optional for us. Nevertheless, I’m sure most people prefer an adults only event. So just do it!

View Quoted Comment Absolutely!! I’m just going to do it.

We've actually addresses the RSVPs to the adults (no Family XYZ, but A and B XYZ) and our online RSVP tool only has two possible answers: "I'll be attending alone" or "there will be two of us". We also have a FAQ on our website, which addresses the issue. It pretty much says "due to the lack of suitable premises and pretty much no non-alcoholic beverages, we have decided not to organise childcare or a children's menu". I wanted to make it clearer that we wish for a child-free wedding, but my fiancé didn't want to risk people getting too upset. Still, it says pretty clearly that if people decide to bring their children, they'll have to take of them themselves and it worked - so far, only one couple will be bringing their baby (but it will be too young to stay with grandma, so it's fine, we've booked them a room within the baby monitor range). Everyone else is coming without their kids.
Honestly, the only people who don't seem to get it are parents of teenagers, trying to force us to invite their pimply, permanently bored offspring because "this would be such a wonderful event for them". We're just smiling and saying that we'll have to see if someone cancels at that table (even if someone does, we have a B list, but we're not telling them that).

View Quoted Comment LOL!!! I totally agree. I have three junior bridesmaids and they’re all teenagers. I mean they are going to be bored, and one of them doesn’t even like wearing dresses UGH (it’s my niece, so I feel obligated). Not only that, I have a cousin who has 4 bad a$$ kids and that’s 4 expensive plated dinners that could be used for an Aunt or Uncle. Nope not doing it

Nope. No kids. The ONE exception would be my MOH if she decided to come. She's due two weeks before the wedding. I have a cousin who may be mad, but ... eh. It clearly states on the website, no kids. Also - we are requiring vaccinations and your child isn't old enough. So it's two fold. Get someone to watch your kid.

View Quoted Comment Oh yea I forgot to include vaccinations. I’m going to include that as well. Perfect. Thank you

View Quoted Comment Careful, if my latest post is anything to judge by ("unvaccinated family members"), this is a discussion you do not want to have on the internet

View Quoted Comment 👍🏽 Gotcha