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Charging people who don;t show up to your wedding

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SoontobeMrs.2017, on April 15, 2016 at 1:44 PM

FYI I will NOT BE DOING THIS. Just thought it would be an interesting post for a Friday. So everyone once in a while you hear stories of people who have sent their absent guest a bill for their plate. I recently had a friend tell me that she got a bill in the mail for a wedding that she didn't go...

FYI I will NOT BE DOING THIS.

Just thought it would be an interesting post for a Friday. So everyone once in a while you hear stories of people who have sent their absent guest a bill for their plate. I recently had a friend tell me that she got a bill in the mail for a wedding that she didn't go to.

My feeling is just that of course you hope that everyone who has RSVP'D shows, but if they don't I would never send them a bill. I just think you take the loss and move on. And I understand for some it's hard because when you think about how much it costs per person to eat, it can get crazy.

I just don't feel that charging people/sending a bill is good....

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Master July 2017
Lauren17 · on April 15, 2016 at 4:17 PM
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Lol @ celia's everyone in tarnation LOL
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Master May 2016
Jacqui76 · on April 15, 2016 at 4:57 PM
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A few weeks ago I saw an article about an app that you can use to make people give their credit card number in order to reserve their seat at your wedding. I guess that's for charging the no-shows without the hassle of sending a bill. I don't know if it's real or what kind of person would actually want to use that.
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MrsStubbs · on April 15, 2016 at 5:11 PM
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That is absolutely crazy
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Super August 2016
Lolerskates84 · on April 15, 2016 at 5:20 PM
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I wouldn't send a bill..if you invited them then you accounted for them in your budget. It's absolutely crappy for sure, especially if they have no excuse and just flaked. If something serious came up they may still send a gift or card (?) If not, then they either do not understand how expensive it can be, or they are just inconsiderate jerks (in which case you're better off leaving them be and going your merry way).
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Master July 2015
annakay511 · on April 15, 2016 at 5:30 PM
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If someone just no-showed, no-called for our wedding I absolutely would have confronted them- but never send a bill!!
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Devoted September 2016
FutureMrsStycuk · on April 18, 2016 at 12:53 PM
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I would never ever send a bill to someone if they could not show up for my wedding, mind you I would be very disappointed if they didn't show after RSVPing, I get things can happen, you get sick, death in the family etc but sending a bill takes huge balls
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VIP September 2016
Mikayla · on April 18, 2016 at 12:58 PM
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I wouldn't do this. But I think it's worse to RSVP for a wedding and not show up.
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Zoe · on April 18, 2016 at 1:23 PM
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I figure paying for no shows is just a cost of hosting. I'd be annoyed (or worried, depending on how reliable the friend is), but I wouldn't expect them to pay.
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NativeBride · on April 18, 2016 at 1:56 PM
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Imagine if someone did go and then got a bill for a no-show because no one noticed them. That would be almost funny. I could see this happening in a really big wedding.
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Just Said Yes February 2022
Luanne · on March 6, 2022 at 11:56 AM
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I had 2 people just show up at the ceremony that were supposed to come to the reception but left after ceremony?? They RSVP'd for the reception. Another couple just did not show or call. One friend's dog was ill.
Nothing is cheap about a wedding. 5 people cost me 700. That is a lot of money.
It is rude to pull a no show. It is rude to not at least send a card. Period. Nobody has class or etiquette anymore. It is a shame.
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