Charging people who don;t show up to your wedding

People be cray. Did your friend pay the bill?

Nope she didn't pay, but she did send a gift

Ya right... I wouldnt have sent a gift after that!!

I've heard of this and severely side-eye the couples that do this. I would never ever consider this, however, I also severely side-eye people who RSVP and then simply don't show. That's just as rude if you ask me.

So everyone once in a while you hear stories of people who have sent their absent guest a bill for their plate.

Nope, I don't.

Eta: double post.

People are just down right crazy these days. I would have laughed.

My engaged friend and I were joking the other day about this--she invited couples and they've been RSVPing back with their 5 kids. I told her to send a bill to them after the wedding saying "We invited two and you brought 7, here's your balance!"

But no, in reality, we would NEVER do that. I'm not sure where people misunderstand what "hosting" really means. This is not a charity auction, you don't get to sell tables to your wedding.

I only heard of this once. On a news story. The people who got the bill took gave it, along with the note, to the news. hahah

Goodness, both parties are very rude, but sending a bill?? people seriously take time out of their day to go that far to hunt people down that do not show? Ha...Kind of funny though

I seen that happen before. It's rude but it's just as rude to RSVP and not show up or let the host know. The world is crazy. If you can't come just shoot me a message and let me know it's really easy.

Yeah, that's silly. I doubt many people would even pay if they got the bill. I think it will be better to have your guests reserve their seat through your website with full payment of the per plate cost. And then if they DO show up, it can be fully refunded. Or applied as the guest's gift to the couple. Guest's choice. Anyone know if you can set something like this up on WW's website?

I'm with MRSFG. It's crazy to send a bill, but it's crazy to just not show up. In my area? Your plate can be 200 ish dollars.

But it's also a by-product of inviting everyone in tarnation who don't really feel as compelled to actually show up.

LOL... The only reason why we wouldn't send a bill is because we don't have the balls to, but I could understand why you would want to.

I can not stand people who would RSVP to a wedding knowing the bride and groom is shelling out money for you to be able to attend their special day. The least you can do is send a sorry gift if you don't show.

@mactobe true, people who RSVP and then don't show can be just rude but there are also a list of reasons that can happen: a family member passed away, they are sick with something contagious, things like that. Sometimes life happens! But sending those people a bill? No!

Oh I completely agree that if you RSVP yes, then you should show up. I think in some cases as with normal everyday life things happen and you can't make it. If I RSVP'D to a wedding/event and couldn't make it I'd give the couple or person hosting notice.

LOL-ing at Celia "Everyone in Tarnation" Love it.

I would die both sides are rude!

It is super rude to RSVP and then not show up, But shit happens. sending a bill is ridiculous. this is a party, that you are hosting. You invited that person. Do you invite someone to a 4th of July cookout and then send them a bill if they dont show up? no! that would be crazy.

Hahaha, its funny to think of, but to really send them a bill...now that's messed up.