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Emma
Devoted March 2021

Changing your name

Emma, on October 4, 2019 at 3:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 28

People keep asking me if I'm changing my name after I get married. I am planning on taking his last name, easy question.

But then my mom was asking if I was going to make my maiden name my middle name and drop the middle name or if I was keeping my middle name. I guess I just never thought past the idea that I would want to take his name.

Are you changing your name? If so, how are you changing it?

28 Comments

Latest activity by Heather , on October 6, 2019 at 6:55 PM
  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey ·
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    I am changing my last name, but keeping my middle name that I have now. My middle name is the same middle name that both of my grandma's had and I also had a great aunt that had my middle name; so I don't want to drop it.

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  • Hannah
    Devoted December 2019
    Hannah ·
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    I personally am dropping my maiden name. I love my middle name (it's a combination of my grandparents' names). My maiden name doesn't carry a lot of weight to me because I'm not close to my biological dad. I would just think about which name you are more attached to - middle or maiden? Also some people just use both and have two middle names. As someone who works in HR, that is a huge pain in the butt when it comes to any legal papers/forms. But if it is important to you, do it!

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  • Amber
    Master February 2020
    Amber ·
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    I'm dropping my maiden name. I've always liked my middle name, I don't know anyone else with it and it was also my aunt's name. Not to mention my current last name is three syllables and would not make a good middle name lol

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  • Michelle
    Super October 2020
    Michelle ·
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    I like my last name, I'm sad about changing it but my fiance feels somewhat strongly about me taking his so I'm doing it for him. I also like the idea of the family having one last name if we have kids, I just dislike the idea of giving up the names for men lol. On the bright side, his would be much easier than mine to spell and to tell people. I think I'll keep my maiden as my second middle name.

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  • Mcskipper
    Rockstar July 2018
    Mcskipper ·
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    I took his last name, and it’s the only change. Moving maiden to middle definitely seems trendy just based on what I’ve seen on this site, but many people don’t appreciate that its not always that simple. How marriage can change a name is different from state to state. In MA where I got married, for example , you can’t change your middle name with a marriage— only your last. If you wanted to change your middle name you would have to go through a separate process and petition the court. So, despite a little intrigue at the idea of keeping and shifting my maiden name, it really wasn’t worth the hassle for
    me!
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  • Kaitlyn
    Devoted May 2020
    Kaitlyn ·
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    I'm dropping my maiden name, even though it means so much to me. My sister is divorced and has our last name again, but my nephew has his father's name. And my brother doesn't seem like he's going to be getting married and having kids, so there's no one else to carry our family name.

    FH and I have talked so much about what to do with my last name and have come to the conclusion that we won't hyphenate or anything. Just seems clunky with our names. And we want us and our future kids to all be unified and have the same last name.

    Plus, I love my middle name! I was named after my paternal grandma and she's such an important woman to me, as she's the only living grandparent I have left, and the only one I've ever really known in my life. (Paternal grandpa passed away when I was about 6, maternal grandma passed before I was born, and maternal grandpa passed shortly after I was born.)

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  • Marina
    Savvy September 2021
    Marina ·
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    I’m keeping my last name, hoping he will take mine, but I’m also okay with him keeping his own! I have a unique last name and I don’t want to part with it, plus there’s a lot of family history that goes with the name.
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I'm changing my name. Maiden name is becoming my new middle name, taking FH's last name as my new last name!

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  • AEW
    Dedicated December 2023
    AEW ·
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    I'll be dropping my maiden name and adding FH's last name. It will move me up in the alphabet a little lol

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    I am taking his last name and changing my middle name to my current last name Smiley smile
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  • Mrs. Bubba
    VIP September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
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    I’m keeping my middle name.

    I never wanted my Parental Unit’s last name.

    I had my Mom’s last name when I left the 🏥 and they should’ve left it as it was.

    I even decided on a new last name to change it to when I was out of High School, but I never got around to it.

    I can’t wait to change everything!

    Congratulations and 🍀‼️
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  • E
    Devoted October 2021
    Erin ·
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    I was planning on adding my maiden name as a second middle name because I don't want to lose both but I want to take my husband's last name. My FH and all his siblings already have two middle names with the second one being their mom's maiden name so we will kinda match Smiley smile
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  • Courtney
    Master December 2019
    Courtney ·
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    I'm only changing my last name.

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  • L
    Devoted August 2019
    Leaves232 ·
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    My maiden name is the hyphenated last names of my parents, so it's very unique. If I changed it to my new husband's, it would be kinda generic. So I'm just keeping my last name!
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  • J
    Beginner June 2020
    JILLY ·
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    I’m keeping my middle name as it means so much to me and dropping my maiden for his last name, never thought anything different!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I kept my maiden name but do think it’s a great idea to move maiden name to middle name.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    I’m only changing my last name name.
    My full first name (which I go by professionally is Kellyanne) middle name is Marie. It’s honorary to my maternal grandmothers name (her first name was Ann Marie & last name was Kelly), I would never want to change the tradition.
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  • Shireen
    Devoted September 2020
    Shireen ·
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    Changing my last name and keeping my middle.
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    Dedicated December 2019
    Decemberbride ·
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    I'm changing my last name and my maiden name is becoming my new middle name.
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  • Violet
    Savvy March 2021
    Violet ·
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    I'm going to be difficult and take my maiden name as my second middle name. My current last name holds a lot of value for me and I just can't part with it.

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