Changing Last Name?

View Quoted Comment I love that! I think everyone has providing so many different perspectives for me. Ironically, I am close to my intermediate family, but not the rest of my family. My now wife pointed that out regarding the name change which made me think maybe I should change it.

View Quoted Comment Ty girl now at counted 53😬 getting close 😅😅😅 I can't wait either.😊😊

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Wow. This marriage preparation fits so perfectly into your interests. You'll be just like Imani in making plans to do celebrate all over again

View Quoted Comment Lol lol I would do it all over again just to see my FH face standing down the aisle waiting for me yes I will marry him a thousand times over. This why I'm excited to see his face on our wedding day coming soon lol lol.But we will have less ppl when we do our renewal of our vows some years from now. Will be less stress on me and him not dealing with nobody's else. Help someone else with their big day. with less

I was thinking about adding a hyphen as well. But, since I have been married before I made the decision to get rid of my current married name and use my new married name. It just signifies a new & fresh start for me.

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It seems better to take on their last name instead of going hyphenated. I like keeping a short name and having the unity that way and a new start too. lol

Maybe the name-change process won't be as fun.

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I agree it sounds better to use the new name

View Quoted Comment I feel that 100%! I’m leaning more towards changing it. I finish grad school this year & once that happens I’ll change it.

View Quoted Comment I think the name changing process is what I am scared of the most.

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Maybe someone will chime in on their experience. We have to think where our names are being used and then what? Just send a copy of the marriage certificate?

I don't have children either. So that is easier.

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Ok, that sounds like a plan. Congratulations & good luck!

View Quoted Comment I assume so. I haven’t done much research, but I have talked to different people with different experiences.

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My fiance and I decided to create a completely new last name together and both change to it after our wedding on Oct 5th! I'm not particularly attached to my last name; he was attached to his a bit, but we both ultimately value having the same last name, no matter what it is, for our future children. Additionally, he's in the unique position of having gone by his middle name instead of his first since he was 5 years old, so his plan is to change to the new last name but also drop his first name that he's never used and shift his middle to his first and keep his old last name as his new middle name! This way his "nickname" is finally his actual name quite a few friends of ours didn't even realize for multiple years that the name he goes by is his middle and not his first name and it typically shocks them a lot.

We discussed hyphenating but we thought it would be too long and just didn't like it. We also tried blending our last names together but didn't like any of those options either. So I said I'd take his last name as a final option if we couldn't think of anything else. But we managed to create a completely new name by blending two words together in the languages of our family's cultural heritages that referred to our two favorite places! The mountains and the ocean. We both love it a lot, and all of our immediate family have already been told and are completely supportive!

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For what I have seen, the total change to a totally new last name would require us to go through a more complex court process. Only the combination of last names (or a single last name) can be done with fewer steps.

View Quoted Comment Yeah that's pretty much the case as far as we know. Thankfully for us in our state the legal process for a full legal name change is written out in pretty easy to follow steps, plus our Officiant is also a lawyer who did the full legal name change for his own marriage. So he walked us through it.


The benefit of dropping his unused first name outweighs the extra effort for my fiance, plus he really likes the last name we came up with haha. He's already told a bunch of his friends and coworkers in excitement and most of them already greet us as the new name.

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That is useful that the officiant is also a lawyer. Are either of you moving your old last name to the middle? It is interesting how the name changes on the license applications enable each of you to take on the other's middle name hyphenated to the old last name.

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My fiance is! The license here only allows us to keep our original names, take the same last name as one or the other, or hyphenate. To do what we want we'll have to do a full, legal name change after the wedding through the state court system I'm just replacing my old last name with the new one we made, but my fiance is completely altering his name. Basically, he's going from: "First Middle Last" to "Middle Last New".

Using a totally brand new last name, even for me, requires a full, legal name change process and isn't covered by the marriage license/certificate sadly. But we wanna do it anyways.

My husband has a really cool last name so it’s really a good change for me.