Change my Maid of Honor??

If I were you, I would talk to your cousin. Explain that you wishes she was closer and that she was able to do all of these things with you. Then you could talk about how you don't want her to feel like she isn't doing anything just becaue of distance, and you understand that. Then maybe say "You know, you are my first pick for MOH, but I think I am going to take you up on the offer of putting you as BM. That way you won't feel stressed like you have a lot to do and distance is in the way."

How about co-MOH's? I was a co-MOH and everything went fine. I am sure if you talked to your BF that she would understand the pressure of family (all of us girls do) tell her what is going on. It wasn't that she was your second choice it is just hard to make the choice between family and friends when your whole family is involved. You are not a loser for wanting your BF standing up with you and it also takes a lot for your cousin to tell you that she just can't do it. Have a heart to heart I am sure both of them are just honored to be part of your special day.

So having co-Moh's just announce them both as Moh's but have my cousin sign the marriage license?? BTW Jaemi you're getting married on my 40th bday :o) Also Laura, BTW that's my name :o), is it too late do you think?? Thanks for the input ladies!

Well Happy Birthday months in advance :-). You are right on @soontobe. Us Co-MOH's did everything together we were listed as Co's on the programs, for the shower, we both stood next to her at the ceremony both wore the same dress and had different bouquets from the BMs we were introduced at the reception as MOH and we gave a together toast (only because the other MOH hates public speaking) one of us signed the marriage license otherwise we were equal in every way.

Well ladies I just spoke with my mom and have decided that I'm going to have both women stand by me on my wedding day as MOH's. I'm going to tell my cousin that I've realized that I love them both dearly and want them both by my side and tell my BF that I thought I had to follow certain rules and only have one MOH but that I don't care about the rules and I'm having two. Thanks for the advice ladies. :o)

WooHooo!!!! I love it when you can throw the rule book out the window!! I am glad this is going to work out, hey this is why we are here! Hope the convo goes well with your BF and cousin