Change in plans

Nope. We are sticking to a DW! It’s FH and I’s vision of the perfect wedding for us- and at the end of the day, that’s who it is about. We are not compromising our dream wedding. Because we know not everyone will (or can) travel, we are going to have a bon voyage PREception before leaving. It allows those not traveling the opportunity to celebrate with us, and saves us the hassle of having to plan something after we return. Plus, we figure a lot of guests will likely give monetary gifts, which we can use during our DW! If a DW is what you and your SO want, I say stick to it!! You can always have a get together locally for those that can’t make it

We changed venues 6 months from our wedding date after booking a crappy one 1.5 years in advance. It can totally be done and wasn’t much of a problem... we even had to send new save the dates because we switched from a sat wedding to sun. It didn’t pose a problem at all really and we made a little joke on the new save the date something like... “for those traveling instead of taking Friday off take Monday! Nobody likes Monday’s anyway”. Lol. Good luck!

When the wedding becomes more about pleasing others andess about bringing you closer to your spouse and starting your journey the TWO of you together.... then it's time to reboot.

It's easy to get so empathetic that you lose sight of each other. And the real meaning behind it all.

I get it. I'm super empathetic Too and have made some mistakes in planning while considering or trying to consider so many others opinions.

But it's your time, your money and most importantly YOUR memories that will build the foundation of your lifetime together. Do what's best for you and those who love and support you will participate.

I don't think it's wrong unless people have started to book non-refundable rooms/flights. If they haven't done that yet, it's just a matter of what's important to you. Would you rather have a smaller wedding in Hawaii, or a larger wedding somewhere more accessible? There's no wrong answer.

You have to decide what’s more important to you. I agree with other PP’s that you could always honeymoon in Hawaii. But if you decide to get married there then you can’t be upset when others can’t afford it or have hurt feelings because they’ll miss it.