Champagne toast

If you do choose to do it, then you need to provide it for all your guests, and not just some. If everyone will have their own drinks in hand (beer, wine, etc), then I personally wouldn't care to pay the extra for the champagne. Many wedding I have been to, no one even touches the champagne. But then again, I see some people who go around drinking all the glasses that no one touched. Champagne is really hit or miss with guests. But again, if all the guests will have their own drinks, then I don't see the point in paying the extra fee for it personally.

It has to be everyone or no one, otherwise you are tiering your reception which is awfully rude. I love good champagne, most people I know do as well. But not everyone does and nobody likes the cheap stuff (a good prosecco is miles ahead of Cook's). Everyone will be perfectly happy to toast with whatever is in their hand, so the champagne is entirely optional. I would do it for my crew but they all like champagne. So it's a know your crowd and budget thing.

@OG Brittany I'm the guests that drinks everyone's else's! I didn't even think about it being rude to only do parents table. I was just thinking of cost!

Do you think just us is ok?

I have a lot of kids and many people who dont drink so we're doing a sparkling cider toast to have everyone included - far cheaper and just as fun - no one (that i'm aware of) really likes champagne - there will be plenty of other alcohol options too

Re: just the couple getting champagne. Nope. Wouldn't be ok if you two were served steak and everyone else had chicken or fish. Same thing goes with drinks-everything must be available to everyone.

@Laura, I don't know if I would personally consider it rude. I would consider it rude if the parents table had it, but no one else did. I know my venue, and I'm sure many others, offered us (FH & Myself) champagne for free. However, I declined and plan to have wine for our toast from the bar, personally. I know some people get upset when they see people drinking things that they weren't given the option to have though. So ultimately, that's your call.

ETA: @MrsSkiToBe made a good point. Why not toast somewhere privately with just the 2 of you with the champagne? That way you don't offend any of the guests.

You can't just have a champagne toast for some guests (or just you). It's considered rude to eat or drink something that isn't being offered to everyone when you're the hosts.

If you're dying to have champagne with your spouse, do it away from your guests and privately toast your marriage together. It actually could be a cute way for you to steal a moment alone together!

I definitely agree with others though that it has to be available for everyone or no one. I personally wouldn't even notice if there wasn't a champagne toast, so I wouldn't do it if you're trying to save money. Since you're having an open bar everyone can just toast with their drinks. I've been to a few weddings where they did that.

We have done many weddings with people toasting with whatever they happen to be drinking, and I think it's fine. Whoever is doing the first toast should mention to people to 'lift your glasses" and toast, so people aren't looking for it.

UO: One of my favorite things at receptions are the toasts (when they are not too long and only a couple people speak)…I also like when champagne is served for the toast.

I think it is worth the extra expense.

I definitely wouldn't be offended if the bride and groom were toasting with champagne only. I also probably wouldn't notice that the parent table was given champagne.

I think it's fine to have people toast with the drinks they already have.

I don't think we are doing one. We are having a full top shelf open bar. I think people will already have their drinks.. so what's the point of a tiny glass of champagne?

We had drinking champagne for everyone- my mother insisted on it - so when someone decided we needed a toast- champagne it was- but I didn't care- it's not that serious.

For what it's worth- we drank ALL the champagne.

I'm not a fan of tiering service at weddings. i feel like it should be all or none. I was at a wedding where one the wedding couple and parents got champagne and I did hear muttering from the guests. I like the idea of a private toast with your new spouse, maybe while photos are being taken?

Thank you all for your input. You brought up some good points and it will be all or none.

We didn't plan on having champagne, and a couple months ago went to a wedding that had champagne on the tables for everyone to toast with. I reconsidered and asked FH what he thought, because it was nice to have (but at least half of the guests didn't touch their glasses) but I wasn't sure if it was necessary. We re-agreed that we didn't need it, since we are having an open bar, and people can just toast with what they're drinking.

We did toast with what you have, but caterer surprised us with champagne for just us.

We are just having people toast with what they are drinking. Champagne is one of the options at the bar. Most toasts I've seen wasted a lot of champagne.

We're skipping it, everyone will already have their drink of choice and it's a money saver! Our venue recommended we not do it, I was glad they were honest. They said there are always so many glasses left untouched.

Skip it. Waste of money