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Just Said Yes November 2018

Ceremony/family Dinner vs Ceremony/dance Invites

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Malika, on April 10, 2018 at 9:16 PM

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We have decided we want to do two separate invitations to our November wedding!

Ceremony & Family dinner for of course: family, bridal party, and far out of town guests. They also would be invited to stay for the dance & cash bar.

I then would like to have a Ceremony & Dance invite. I plan to have cake cutting at this time & do all that fun dance stuff then ! Light snacks will be provided then w/ a cash bar .

My grandmother called me and said it was going to offend people. But with our ever growing guest list the price of our meal is out of reach . Feeding 500 vs 130 is huge !!!
Our ceremony is much more important then the dance , but would love to still celebrate w/ those that rather join in @ the dance !!

What do people think of this ??

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khorysmom · on April 11, 2018 at 6:44 AM
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I am in Iowa. We have a licensed bartender. In the state of Iowa the bartender and the persons paying for the alcohol can be held liable if something were to happen.
I do not agree that having a cash bar is a faux pas. I am providing beverages, several options in fact. If guests want alcohol then that is something they have the option to purchase. They have a choice just as I do.
Before making our decision, we consulted attorneys and ran our ideas by family and friends. Cash bar was the way for us to go. I’m taking out insurance in the event someone wants to make choices.
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khorysmom · on April 11, 2018 at 6:58 AM
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If people choose not to come because we chose to have a cash bar and not an open bar, that’s their choice. There are beverage options that are free.
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Janice · on April 11, 2018 at 7:06 AM
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It is a faux pas. Guests shouldn’t have to open their wallet as a party that you’re hosting.
As stated, the law in Iowa applies to minors, who a licensed bartender shouldn’t be serving. If they do, liability is on them, not on you. It also MAY apply if a car insurance company pays for damages and tries to collect from you, but that’s IF your event insurance policy excludes alcohol coverage. Just make sure you get one that doesn’t.
There are plenty of Iowa brides (and grooms) here who have hosted or are planning to host their guests properly and had open bars.
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Talullah · on April 11, 2018 at 7:09 AM
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Totally agree!
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Katie · on April 11, 2018 at 7:12 AM
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If you spent money on these attorneys, maybe you want to get your money back.

http://www.grllaw.com/wrongful-death-traumatic-injury-division/alcohol-related/social-host/

Look, we're telling you cash bar is a rude concept. Ultimately how you host is up to you, but saying it's because of the law in Iowa sounds like a cop out
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FutureMrsR · on April 11, 2018 at 9:39 AM
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Went to a cash bar wedding a few years back. I wasn’t even old enough to drink yet. People kept leaving the venue to go out to their cars, where they had tons of hard liquor. They got absolutely hammered (bartender can’t cut them off if they aren’t using the bar!). There was underage drinking (HUGE liability) because again, no bartender at a tailgate. Plus, a lot of people missed he important moments of the wedding to go outside and drink. It was awful. Please don’t do this.
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