Ceremony!

View Quoted Comment You should be honest about both. Now, I don't think that necessarily means getting a list of every person your partner has ever been with. I personally never felt I needed that from my husband nor did he. We got together as adults with the understanding that we were not each other's first and these past relationships are in the past. We know about some of the more significant relationships each person has had, but I can't tell you the name of every girl my husband dated before me, and I can't say I really care to.


I'm assuming you are on this site because you are expecting to get engaged soon. The best thing to do is to speak with your boyfriend about your hopes and plans for the future and make sure you two feel the same way. Worry about type of ceremony and all the other wedding planning details after that engagement.

View Quoted Comment I feel like this one thing that I saw is gonna tear us apart because he keeps on lying about it

I’m not blind I know what I saw and he’s such a liar

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If he's a liar why are you even thinking about marrying him? This is a big red flag to me.

I saw that he was tagged on fb by this guy bbquing and I opened it and there was these girls that I know from school and I don’t really like those girls the thing is that what happened 1st is that I know the girl Renee from school and she has a bby daddy named oscar and then I had heard that they had broken up some I used to talk to told me years ago before I met my dude and that he lived in this house where I used to know where he stayed but I done forgot n when she told me I was like oh and that’s it i never went to his house or went looking for him or anything because I had no reason to i mean I knew his bby mama and plus I didn’t like him like that or in any other way so then I was dancing at a strip club and he was there and I sat with his friend and one thing led to another and I had sex with his friend and then I never contacted his friend or him after that! And then a lot of years passed and I was at the car wash with my mom n sister and he just came up to me and shook my hand ! And I was surprised that he shook my hand after what I had did u know bethel was right next to me and his friend when we were doing it! And I think me n my dude weren’t doing so well in our relationship at the time and when we left the car wash I sent him a message on fb just to ask him if he still had it so that he can add me as a friend only and I don’t remember but I think I sent him a message but just to ask if he still had f b I did used to kinda find him a lil cute when I was in middle school but I never told him or trued to get with him and then he got with that girl Renee and had kids with her I wasn’t trying to get with him I don’t remember if at the strip clubhouse but I think I had sat on his lap and I had asked him where was Renee and he told me he didn’t know and I was just like ok but I’m not for sure if I sat on his lap or if I was sitting on his friends lap! So what I want to know is why did my man have that tag on his fb? And after I sent him that message on fb I never messaged him again I don’t even like him at all the way he is thinking I just see him like any other regular guy

He hasn’t had any previous relationships I was his first

What is it that he wants me to be honest about he had girls on his fb too at least I knew the guy From school when we were younger he don’t even know them girls he has on there n he messages them on there just because they have money I guess and they have these dogs that he he obsessed with! I done took off fb if he wants to be with me he’s gonna have to explain to me why was he tagged on that picture and he needs to forget about having fb

View Quoted Comment I’m not marrying him yet and I really did see that tag and what a coincidence that the bby mama of that guy n her friends were in the post I don’t know what he was trying to prove

And what a coincidence that every time my mom calls the cops now this young cop named Oscar has been coming over here and trying to talk to me not flirting though what a coincidence that his name is Oscar too even though it’s not the same guy

What’s up with that I just need him to be honest with me that why was he tagged in the picture

What does he have to do with those girls?

If that guy is a problem to him why doesn’t he go and ask him I know he won’t lie to him because I don’t remember if I sat on his lap I really don’t remember that part and if I did I was probably drunk I know I was for sure because of what happened

I had never had sex with a guy while working at a strip clubhouse there where we were sitting where everyone could see us but I was acting like I was giving him a dance

And that other guy didn’t mean anything to me it just happened I was drunk and I never reached out to any of them afterwards and he can even ask Oscar if I ever tried to get with him dam I think I did that night but I was drunk I mean come on if I didn’t do it when I was sober than why should it matter I don’t like him I don’t want to have sec with him or anything like that them other guys don’t mean anything to me they were just guys I played around with

View Quoted Comment Both. Present, past, future. I would be strongly concerned if you’re catching him in lies now

View Quoted Comment What do u mean we should be honest about both?

View Quoted Comment Well he needs to tell me that’s what I don’t like is that he don’t tell me anything

View Quoted Comment You asked about if you should be honest about past or future. The answer is both, past and future.

I know that I’m the only girl he’s ever been with

View Quoted Comment He better not had been with no other girl because it will be the end of us!!!