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Just Said Yes October 2019

Ceremony order without bridal party

Elizabeth, on October 10, 2018 at 7:44 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 7

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Hi everyone. My fiancé and I have chosen not to have bridesmaids or groomsmen. It will be just us standing in front of everyone. I’m wondering if there is a way I could have a small professional, maybe with family. I feel like someone needs to walk down the aisle before me. Thoughts? We also may not have a flower girl or a ring bearer. I wanted both, but we do not know any young children. My youngest nephew is 9, almost 10, and the youngest niece is 11, almost 12.

Just a FYI, I was thinking of having my grandmother walk down the aisle, accompanied by someone, not sure who. And then my stepmother. My problem with that is I’m worried my mom would feel left out; however, I simply have a better relationship with my stepmother. And should I consider having his parents walk down the aisle?

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Latest activity by Christy, on October 17, 2018 at 11:40 AM

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Victoria · on October 10, 2018 at 7:48 AM
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We are having my brother escort my mother, followed by FH's parents, my MOH then me with my father. So yes, you can have his parents walk down the aisle.

Do you have a bad relationship with your mother? Or is it just that you are closer to your stepmother? Is there any reason why you couldn't have them both walk down the aisle?

As for your grandmother, absolutely have her walk down the aisle! Grandmothers love that! If I had a grandmother who could travel and make the walk I would do it in a heartbeat. Do you have an uncle or brother that could walk her? An uncle or brother could also walk your mom and stepmom too.
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Elizabeth · on October 10, 2018 at 9:00 AM
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I was thinking on having my fiancé walk my grandmother. My grandfather passed away years ago and my grandmother absolutely loves my fiancé. I also think that would mean a lot to her. The hesitance regarding my mother is related to her partner. My mother will feel left out if I don’t include her, but I don’t want to include her partner because we have a VERY strained relationship. That being said, my mother will be upset if I don’t include her partner. So it’s either make my mother happy or have the people I love in my wedding.
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Kelly · on October 10, 2018 at 9:46 AM
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Hi Elizabeth! If you are having a ring bearer and flower girl, they would go after your family and before you! I think it would be so sweet to have your grandmother escorted by your fiance! As for your mother, it's really up to you! I would say if the issue is with her partner, maybe she can walk in solo? I would ask your fiance's parents if they want to walk down the aisle or not, but think that would be totally fine for them to do so!
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2d Bride · on October 10, 2018 at 10:40 AM
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You could have your officiant walk. And your FI could walk, perhaps escorted by his parents. And you could walk, perhaps escorted by your mother and stepmother. With the two of them escorting you, it would be easy enough to justify not having your mother's partner involved by pointing out that four abreast would be awkward.
Your grandmother could walk with the officiant. Or you could have a relative escort her.
Beyond that, you can really do what you want. If you want your niece and nephew involved, they could still be flower girl and ring bearer if they are up for that. (I've seen grandmothers acting as flower girls, so it's not like there is an age limit.) But if they feel like that's too babyish, they could be a bridesmaid and bridesman. (If you had other attendants, you'd probably call them "junior" bridesmaid and bridesman, but you really don't have to make that distinction if they are your entire wedding party.)
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DC Wife 10.27.18 · on October 10, 2018 at 11:54 AM
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We do not have a bridal party. Our kids will walk down and be seated before us. That's about it. FH and I are walking down together. I think the processional is totally up to you. You could have your mother and grandmother escorted by a close family member.
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Mrs. S · on October 10, 2018 at 2:42 PM
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I think it would be nice to have all the parents walk down the aisle and then you
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Just Said Yes October 2019
Christy · on October 17, 2018 at 11:40 AM
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Why not have both Mom's walk you down the aisle? I love the no bridal party idea. I'm going to do the same, just have little bridesmaids and page boys, British style. Adult bridesmaid drama thusly avoided!
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