Celibate for 1 Month Before Wedding- DO IT!

I don't think you can really tell people what to do..When to have sex/how long to wait before a wedding, etc. is a *personal* choice for each couple..also I feel that a lot of judgments are being made about being a "good girl" by asking where they are...you can't un ring a bell if you know what I mean..one month isn't going to fix that.

My FH & I talked about it & I tend to want sex more the more often I have it. If we didn't have sex all month I would probably think I'm tired what's one more night of waiting. So we aren't going to do that!

Good real would mean no sex ever until marriage, not just only one month before. And FH says he was probably jerking off in the shower every day.

I see where it's good for some, but we honestly don't have sex that often and can go a few weeks anyway, and sometimes it's better the more often we do have sex. If I go weeks, the first time back to it isn't very good. I dunno, just me maybe?

"Good girls"? Self control? Honey, we were celibate for a 9 month deployment starting 2 weeks after our wedding day, let me tell you about self control. And the 9 months wasn't what made it special when he finally came home. It was that he came home, and we could touch each other and be in the same room and see each other. All of that is what makes it special every time. Before and after marriage. Actually considering he couldn't come home and had to stay at the base for the first 2 months after he got home it was actually 11 months of celibacy.

^^^My mom said try a year...my dad was stationed in Saudi Arabia for a year

I guess I have a low sex drive (the only time I'm very horny is around my period and when I'm off meds) which is why I can go days without sex...

I think being married makes the night special and anticipated and not 'just another night.' I just don't understand the point. Nothing to do with being a good girl, then you would have to have been a virgin. Holding out for 1 month for no reason doesn't make you a good girl.

Wow Rachel- I don't know why you are getting so much hate for this. I think it is really respectable and I think it is great that you did this and I'm not quite sure why people are making fun of you for it.

Its not hate (at least not from me), just a differing opinion that celibacy isn't the reason your wedding night will be special. Also not appreciating being judged as a non good girl because I didn't hold out.

What Ashley said.

No hate whatsoever. And wasn't making fun of anyone. But please do not tell my what to do with my private life, tell me I have no self control, and infer we are bad girls.

Well, I was fine with the original post about what her and her FH decided to do. The second post about being concerned with having no self control and implying we weren't good because we choose not to do this is what I found ridiculous.

In my opinion, the fact that you think you need to stop having sex for 30 days in order for your wedding night to be exciting is cause for concern.

I don't see how it is preachy at all... To me it seems like sharing advice and her experience. Just like everyone does on here about everything.

Ohhhh ok ok I see. These comments are about the second post. Sorryyyy!!

If you need to be celibate for a month for your wedding night to be awesome...you're doing something wrong. Just saying. But hey whatever works for ya. ;-)

I haven't been a "good girl" in so many years. If I go for more than a week, my entire personality changes and I get very grumpy. I don't want there to be any other reason to stress out when it gets closer to my wedding day. I feel that being intimate is more than just a physical action. There is a special connection that happens both mentally and emotionally during every encounter. There is a huge difference between going out for a one night stand when you are single and having sex with the man you love. I personally would not want to loose that connection in any way during a time when I will need his support so desperately.

HAHAHAA OMG AMY & CARRIE

I'll be celibate for the month before my wedding. And also the 28 years and 10 months leading up to it.

And FH and I will be peacing out of that reception by like 9:30. I can only be a gracious hostess for so long with THAT on the horizon.

I'm fine not being concidered a "good girl". Naughty girls have more fun

Ive been celibate my entire life. almost 25 years. FH has been celibate for 5 years. So, yeah, we are leaving as soon as we can get away. Ive been looking forward to this. I dont know if would be any less special if we had already slept together, but i do know that waiting this long has made my wedding night a very anticipated night indeed.

I am celibate for 4 months at a time since I only see FH that often...and I will say I am tight as heck the first time we do it and it isn't that fun to be quite honest. There is no way I am staying celibate for a month before b/c I want to ENJOY the wedding night and not be in pain haha