Celibate for 1 Month Before Wedding- DO IT!

That'd be too hard. lol

I'm going to ask FH what he thinks about that!

Good for you! I see why some chose to do this and those who don't. One month is not bad at all! I mean ladies after you have a baby you cannot do it for 6 weeks!

LoL, I'm with you Amy.

Me and Fh are only doing a week I dnt think I can go a whole month I'm kind of a B when I dnt have my stress reliever...

Yea my FH would not agree to that LOL We just had our second daughter in January and barely made it through the six weeks lol

Heck no! We had to be celibate for 8 months after we got married. There was no way we were gonna be celibate for the few weeks we actually got to be together before we got married.

Uh...

not.happening.

Anybody read that article on that couple who are staying celebate after marriage? They want to remain "extra holy"! apparently if they have sexy thoughts the man eat a potato, and the woman will splash water on her face...

I felt it was special simply because we had made a new commitment to each other. It felt special and new regardless. We were not celibate (although were were apart for about a week and a half and then together just a few days before the wedding since I went back east ahead of him).

@Robin I'm with you on remaining celibate for a month before our marriage...I brought this up with my FH...let's say it didn't go so nicely...I want to make the honeymoon explosive and nice...

We were far from celibate on our wedding night & despite being exhausted, we still had really great sex after all was said & done!

I think you misunderstood me, Andre'ya. We weren't celibate and it was still special and wonderful.

The article about the celibate married couple was on a fake new site- similar to The Onion. Not to burst your bubble! Lol- I'm kinda surprised so many wont even consider doing this. A relationship takes self control and I'd be concerned if my husband or i couldn't control ourselves for a few weeks! I'm not trying to bash but where are all the "good girls" out there!? I totally get that it's not pleasant but it was so worth it. Every reward takes sacrifice. To each his own and I respect y'all but it is surprising.

Nope. I'd kill him or someone else before the ceremony out of frustration.

Good girl? Lol Sex brings FH and I closer as a couple. We will be more than eager to make love to each other as husband and wife without having to refrain from sex for a month to make it exciting. It will be plenty exciting and awesome.

^This exactly. And unless you've been celibate for an entire relationship it is just another time, albeit a very special one. I don't think abstaining for an arbitrary amount of time makes it any more special. The marriage in and of itself makes it special.

I don't think it has ANYTHING to do with not being able to control oneself. Sure I COULD give it up for a month, but I don't see any reason to. It is about not wanting to give up intimacy that already exists in a relationship.

And I don't get the good girl comment. At all.

"good girl"? LOL I'm not some teenager in the bible belt...

No. "Pausing" my sex life for any period of time wouldn't make it more special. I know this, due to having to for physical reasons sometimes. I enjoy sex, a lot, and continuing to have sex doesn't mean I'm not a "good girl." (lol @ that).

That being said, since the wedding, I've for some reason been finding H extra sexy and have been wanting him even more. And we didn't have to be celibate for that to happen.

Just because you don't want to be celibate for 1 month before your wedding doesn't make you any less of a "good girl"