I'm not quite sure what to do regarding rehearsal dinner. First of all, I'm not entirely sure we need the rehearsal at the venue. I think the processional and everything will be pretty straightforward. Also our wedding is on a Friday, so the rehearsal would fall on a Thursday, or even before that if the venue isn't available that night, so may not be convenient for everyone.
Our venue is in the downtown area of our town, so I was thinking everyone could just walk over to one of the pubs and we would order a bunch of apps and drinks. We don't want anything fancy because it's not really in the budget, our wedding is a seated dinner, and my FILs are throwing a bbq house party the day after the wedding. I mentioned to my FMIL that my FH and I could pay, but she said no, they would pick up the tab if they have to. I feel bad though since they're already hosting a party at their house, and paying for the alcohol for the wedding. Is having a rehearsal dinner completely necessary? Is it okay to just do something casual?
Also they have some family coming in from out of the country that will be there, so that's another consideration. I feel like it would be rude to not invite them, which of course will just add on to the cost.
Basically, to have or not to have, is casual okay, who should pay, and is it necessary to cover all costs (i.e. drinks)?