My partner and I both have jobs where we are very friendly and fond of many of our colleagues. We would love to be able to invite everyone to our wedding but we just cannot afford to. We made a deal that we wouldn't invite anyone from our jobs so no one would feel left out. However, we don't want to blow off our work friends completely so we thought we'd have a very low-key engagement party / get together at a local bar we love in Brooklyn. Our idea was to invite all our wonderful NYC local friends to celebrate our engagement and have a couple drinks.
I'm getting nervous to organize this now because all the etiquette websites and posts say you NEVER invite people to an engagement party if they have not been invited to the wedding. We are a very casual couple who are having a small, close friends and family only wedding, but we want to make sure 1) our work friends are not getting the wrong idea and 2) no one has hurt feelings because they are not invited to the wedding. Thoughts?
