Cash Bridal Shower...update.

OmG I wouldn't go.

This is the second time I've heard of a cash only shower. I hope this isn't becoming a "thing". Asking for cash is ridiculously rude.

I would go and bring a physical gift

Maybe a garter with $1 bills attached? Sorry I know wrong but couldn't help to put my 2 cents in.

I'm sorry you are being overshadowed. Hang in there

Ugh

Has anyone actually been to a cash wedding shower? I'm curious as to how they work. The highlight of the shower is usually opening the gifts, passing them around, and oohing and ahhing over them. So, is the whole gift thing omitted from a cash shower, or does the bride actually open the envelopes and announce who gave what? I find that whole image shocking.

I'd probably find a reason not to go, but if you do, buy a boxed gift. This is allegedly a wedding shower, not a fundraiser. You are under no legitimate pressure, family or otherwise, to give her money. If the people who are hosting this thing want to gift the bride with cash, they can. As for the rest of the guests, they can bring a traditional gift if they so choose.

I wouldn't buy a physical gift. They flat out told you that that's not what she wanted. Tacky is not the right word, it's so overused. I think you mean rude, which yes...it is rude. But don't you be difficult just to prove a point . It's not worth your energy. However- I wouldn't go in that situation-but I hate showers. Just don't go. Prove your point that way

I would use any excuse to get out of a shower and this is a perfect one.

You could get an inexpensive umbrella and tape money inside of it. Put money on strings and have them dangle. When you gift it, you have it closed and allow her to open it. "Here ya go, since you insist that we make it rain at this shower."

Ugh. Tacky AF.

I like MGB's, Heather's, and Ariella's suggestions!

I'm thinking coins....

Oh good Lord!!! You're right, I think you should make an effort to go since she is your SIL. I am in the camp that says get her a physical gift, especially something personalized she can't return, haha. Just because she wants cash, doesn't mean you have to give it to her.

Engrave a god damn garden gnome! Fill him with pennies and you have your gift. Is it bitchy? Maybe. Petty? Definitely! Worth the look of horror when she opens it? You bet!!!

If you are buying her a physical gift, you will be spending money.

If you give her cash, you will be spending money.

She clearly prefers the cash over a gift..so why not give her what will make her happy.

Oh wow!!

Update....so I was not able to get out of this without upsetting the future in laws. I went and took $20 to put on the money tree (and resisted the urge to take $1 bills). Except.....everyone else took cards! So I threw my $20 under some of the envelopes.

Then after we ate, her mom told everyone to get in a circle to WATCH HER OPEN CARDS. wtfffff?! Well obviously I did not have a card so I left right then and there. I almost wish I had stayed to see how boring and awkward that was, but I didn't want to be called out on the $20. LOL!!

View Quoted Comment Agree - give them what they need

View Quoted Comment Agree - I got married in the 80’s and people thought the new dangled registries were rude
get over it physical gift or cash both are gifts to Shower the couple with

FYI....she took the cash from her bridal shower and got a tattoo later that day. And then complained when she got close to wedding day that she couldn’t afford anything. Nope.