Cash Bridal Shower...update.

I would just buy her a physical gift- maybe something personalized like a frame or something. I'd be uncomfortable bringing cash. ETA: they're allowed to change their wedding date. As for the dress shopping, she did ask FMIL first...

If you felt like indulging her, I would purchase a gift card. If you feel like making a point, get her a super random one like to the Bass Shop for fishing gear. "Since, I found this whole shenanigan fishy!"

Monopoly money would be going in that envelope if it were from me.

Bothered may be. Tacky yes. Buy a physical gift and leave it at that. As for dress fittings and dress buying. why not ask FSIL what time her appointment is and make yours the opposite time. If hers is at 11 make yours at 4.

For my friends who are getting married I'm getting them something different. FH's best friend is getting married 2 weeks before us and usually we give money at weddings but we will be paying off a lot of our vendors. There is a boutique called Fiddle Stix by us and they do personalized party and dip trays and other dishes as well.. You can even add "headstones" which you buy separately and they make them holiday themed, engagement, girls night out, sports teams, etc. I feel like if its a friend or someone your age its appropriate since you know what they like. I want the personalized things as well that didn't go on my registry since BBB doesnt have them neither does Macys. My best friend even said she got something off our registry and something personalized. I know I'd appreciate it if someone did that for me.

@Katy E I would love to do that! Petty me definitely wants to do that. Too bad it would cause family issues.

So is she going to be opening up all of her cards in front of everyone and showing off her cash at the shower? I would still go to be a good sport. Just get her a physical gift. I would just give her cash though. It may be tacky. But it still makes it easier on me for not having to go buy a present.

Wait, they're doing something this rude and you're worried about them looking down at YOU?

Nope.

No, you don't have to go. And if you do, you don't have to give them money.

And a heads up to those who think that no one thinks HF's are tacky.

As for the date? Well, you get one date. She gets one date.

Just give the girl cash and move on. No use in getting all crazy over it.

If you're looking for physical gift ideas, a friend got us a "date night": blanket, mugs, hot chocolate, and a restaurant gift card. It was cute!

But this is totally tacky. Sorry :/

I went to a shower that had

"Monetary and Gift cards accepted" with no registry info. I wasn't bothered but would of been nice if she did a registry so I could have the option. Anyways asking for money is tacky but it doesn't mean you have to give it. I am thrifty shopper so my gift would be cute and personal and if I have the extra $ I give $25-$50.

Give that bitch a toaster

I would pretend like I didn't get the invitation. Then, when/if they asked me if I'll attend I'd pretend like this is brand new information. Then I'd tell them I already have plans.

Agree with Jessica. Give her some cash and get on with life. They can at least buy something they'd like with the cash. $50 is $50 whether you buy something with it or put it in a card.

Thats annoying. Buy her something physical or a gift card for the shower and cash for wedding. I thought that was standard anyways.

Lmao at the toaster comment!!! Hmmmm....what's the lamest place I can get a gift card for. ??

I would get a small physical gift. Like dish towels. Super tacky and rude to ask for cash only

You also don't have to hand them a gift. I don't get the difference. On one hand you ask for a $50 toaster, on the other, you ask for just cash. Why does it matter. No one is demanding cash anymore than they are demanding gifts by having a registry of things to buy them.

Best not to go. Better that than go, be fake nice, getting her something she didn't ask for.

Gives "shower" a whole new meaning...making it rain money on a bride...

Maybe someone will buy her a big obnoxious piggy bank to display at the shower. At least then there would be a visual of how she and the shower hosts view the guests.