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Karla
Dedicated July 2021

Cash bar or open bar?

Karla, on August 20, 2019 at 1:12 AM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 21
Our guests like to drink A LOT so we know we definitely have to make room for alcohol in our budget. I’m trying to be smart with providing alcohol for our guests but not having to pay a fortune. We haven’t booked a venue yet but many offer cash bar, open host bar, kegs, etc. A venue that we’re leaning towards has a cash bar included in the package but I’m afraid it will come off as tacky. So I was thinking we can purchase 3 kegs (which is about 3 cups per person) and if they want mods they can purchase more alcohol themselves. However, even that I feel might look a little tacky (to them). Also, I’m not a beer drinker, I’m more of a mixed drink/fruity drinker. I don’t want to focus so much on beer when I don’t drink it myself. Is proving a keg & a cash bar a reasonable compromise? *i don’t want people getting stupid wasted either*

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Latest activity by Chandra, on August 20, 2019 at 6:35 PM
  • S
    Devoted October 2019
    Summer ·
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    If you do kegs or you do a open bar you could give them tokens of some sort and when they run out of the tokens they have to pay for there own drinks then
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Depends on your crowd but generally speaking, it’s proper hosting to not make you guests open their wallets at an event you’re hosting.

    It’s totally ok to just provide beer & wine. Shots and hard alcohol can make it easier for guests to drink too much.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    In my personal experience I see people get drunk the quickest at weddings when it’s x number of free drinks then cash bar. People rush to the bar and are double fisting to get free drinks before they run out. Just something to think about.
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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
    Karla ·
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    Ah never thought about it that way. But at the same time if I have an open bar (even for a couple hours) it’d be the same thing. My guests will not stop drinking no matter what 🤦🏼‍♀️ Coming from a traditional Mexican family who will drink beer like its water , so frustrating lol
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    VIP September 2020
    Willow ·
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    You can do just beer and wine and 2 signature drinks, including the fruity drink you like. I've seen some packages that have complimentary ( for the guests) wine service during dinner and cash bar for everything else.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    100% agree with this. If you're going to provide a limited open bar, I would at least do beer and wine. Like another PP said, you could even throw in a signature cocktail or two.

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  • Andrea
    Super October 2019
    Andrea ·
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    I’d avoid a cash bar if at all possible. You can always do beer and wine along with a signature drink or 2.
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  • Arielle
    Expert August 2020
    Arielle ·
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    I agree with the PP. I would avoid a cash bar if you can. Signature drinks are very in and beer and wine are always favorites.

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    Beginner October 2019
    Ashley ·
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    It’s honestly more generous than I am being, my wedding is in a winery and so no one is confused we made it clear on the invitations that it is a cash only bar. We are providing a meal, dessert and non alcoholic drinks and party favors. If anyone is offended that they cannot get drunk on top of that then it doesn’t hurt my feelings for them to not come.
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  • Karla
    Dedicated July 2021
    Karla ·
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    Thank you everyone for your responses! A lot of very good advice
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  • MrsD
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    We had an open bar, not a consumption bar. Our guests drink a lot, so a consumption bar would have cost us more. I would look into open beer & wine, with liquor for purchase. And skipping things like a champagne toast & tableside wine. People will get wasted if they want to, regardless if they pay for it or not.

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  • Future Mrs. Danger
    Expert November 2019
    Future Mrs. Danger ·
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    I am not a fan of cash bars. If you are trying to keep cost in check, just go with beer and wine. There are online calculators that help you figure out how much you need.

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  • Justine
    Dedicated August 2019
    Justine ·
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    I am having an open bar but I totally underatand where you're coming from because our people don't drink that much. If they did, I might have done BYOB. Don't ask me why but people rather BYOB than a cash bar. It's weird but some people find it fun, like a pregame effect. Maybe look for a venue that allows that. Good luck!
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  • Laura
    VIP November 2019
    Laura ·
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    I think a cash bar is a know your audience thing. None of my friends or family would bat an eye at a cash bar; in other places it’s the height of rudeness. Gauge your audience, quietly, to see which direction you need to go. And if you can’t afford a cash bar, so be it. People will live.
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  • Michaela
    Super May 2020
    Michaela ·
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    I think open beer & wine, with liquor to purchase is a great compromise. I've been to quite a few weddings with this set up, and no one thinks it's tacky. They think "If I want to drink for free, I'll just have to settle with beer" or "At least they have my favorite drink as an option!" I've also been to weddings where they only have 2 or 3 kegs, and once they are out, then it turns into a cash bar. As guests, we need to be more thankful for everything the hosts are offering to us, and not focus on what we can't get. Whatever you decide will be just fine!!

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    September 2019
    Lorri ·
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    I agree with Michaela. I've been to wine & beer only with cash bar options and never once thought badly of the bride and groom, because at least they provided some options.

    Do what you can afford, just dont go all out on things like favors and decor, and then completely skimp out on the drinks. THAT is what people get bent over.
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  • Laree's
    Devoted May 2022
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    We plan on doing a hosted beer and wine bar until it hits a pre determined amount. After that, it turns into a cash bar with beer and wine only. We don’t want people getting carried away with shots and stuff. I am considering adding two specialty cocktails though because I want an option for myself as I don’t drink beer or wine. I feel it’s an ok compromise because we don’t have a lot of room in the budget for alcohol.
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  • Yoice
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    As a person that doesn’t like beer I would be thrown off if there’s only beer as a free option and I have to pay for a drink. I would offer wine as well so is more of a balance for the general population but if possible throw a mix drink or two in there. If people want straight hard liquor then that’s can be purchase.
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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    We are offering wine and 3 signature drinks for 2 hours (with dinner) and then it will all be replaced with just regular beverages. Tea, water, soda etc. We have certain family members that dip way too much into the alcohol and get plastered, obnoxious and crazy when they get drunk so we wanted to make sure that everyone was able to have a good time but also sober up in time to go home!

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    I vote open bar or possibly consumption bar if you aren't sure if everyone will drink!

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