Can’t afford anything?

Have you thought about getting roommates? I know it isn't the ideal married life but that might be a good compromise. You can live with some friends possibly. Rent will be cheaper and you can share the utilities.

I understand that getting a 2nd job doesn't sound ideal; but honestly there comes a time in life where we do things that we just don't like or want to do. I have two jobs, one that pays the main bills and one that gives a little extra to put into savings. It sounds like as much as the two of you dislike the idea, it's something you both should consider. Just because you didn't go to college, it doesn't mean you don't have any skills. You may have to pick a job right now that is less than ideal to make more money. We've all gone through it.

As previously noted, you may want to consider postponing a wedding until your finances are better and under control. If living with either of your parents isn't ideal, then look at other family members that may be willing to help or you can look at getting a larger place with the the hopes of renting our extra rooms to generate some income - that doesn't just pay the bills. Also, don't eat out; eat at home; PB&J, Bologna sandwiches, you eliminate any extra spending that is unnecessary (if you get your nails done, stop, find a less expensive hair stylist, skip the starbucks - and try to save as much money as possible.

Gotcha..ok

What is your current living and monthly bill situation? Do you live together or separately? How much are you currently paying for living expenses and how much do you think those expenses will increase after getting married?

I have all these same questions. And I also agree that postponing marriage until you can both be financially independent may be best for the long term. In the short term, get some budgeting books from the library and join some online forums/Facebook groups specifically about increasing income/decreasing expenses/budgeting. You can learn so much that way!