Cancellation

I’m really sorry this is happening to you.

Just email your vendors and email your wedding guests. You’re dealing with something extreme,m and you don’t owe anyone an explanation right now.

I'm sooo sorry for you but better Now than later. So depending on how far the events away ask can you please just have a Smaller event and have a Big Bachelorette party or a I'm single party don't throw your money away throw him away.No pun intended.imjs get up brush your Boots off and Reinvent yourself and then go on a cruise and Relax.love and strength girlfriend!

You should have a “dodged a bullet” party if it’s all already paid for. I’m so sorry he hurt you like that. But like PP said better now then after the wedding.

Im so sorry that this happened! How horrible. Im sure this is really hard right now but someday it will get better.

Hang in there!

I'm so sorry. Broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. You are such a strong woman with self-esteem. Most women won't quit but you did. I suggest you have a party if you are paying.

So sorry. I cant imagine how your feeling. Send some emails to vendors and tell them politely it is a touchy subject . I can't I'm not gone telling every single 1 over and over. As far as family,they will find out the truth,so best to maybe write a letter then make copies and just send out. So you are not reliving it,every time you write a new one.. best of luck.

View Quoted Comment Nope not in the US... if they are dicks they get to lose their thousands! If considered a contract and the man cheated he would have been the one to “breach contract” which if an actual written contract would mean a cancellation of the contract with no return of the deposit ... or the ring.

View Quoted Comment I second this!!!
there are a lot of couples dealing with health issues, affected by tradgedies that wedding had to take a back seat.
Imagine offering the funds you have paid to someone in need. Why waste!?
maybe news channel could help or local FB group?
Have nominations or people write an essay.

I think for vendors you may need to send a letter, but I would call as well to speak with them.

As far as your guests, with everything you’re going through I personally believe people will understand if you simply make call around to your family and friends notifying them. I would have him call the guests from his side so that you don’t have to go through the drama with that. I don’t think it’s necessary to sit there writing out your cancellation notice, addressing the envelopes, and buying the stamps again. That whole process will just upset you more than I’m sure you already are. If you can have family help spread the word it may be helpful as well. Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

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I wouldn't offer it up in either case. Let him grow the balls to come and ask for it.

I kept one from a failed engagement years ago (I had actually paid for the damn thing, so I felt justified...should have been my FIRST red flag.)

When I started dating now FH I sold it (for WAAAY less than I'd paid, but it wasn't doing me any good sitting in the drawer) and that's now going towards our wedding fund.

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Donating it to another bride is a GREAT idea. I second this.

How far away is your wedding? Who paid for the deposits? If he paid, I would throw a big party for myself bc he owes you. If you paid, then I would do everything I can get something back. If not, I’d throw a big party. If your wedding is more than 6 months away, I would call or email the vendors, explain what happened, and see if they will give part of it back if another bride books their service. I’ve known of vendors who backed off the contract in these circumstances. I would be honest. Tears help. Sob stories help. Trust me. Heard first hand.

Omg!! I'm beyond heartbroken for you. I agree with previous posters: email the vendors, and maybe offer up the wedding to a bride in need. Definitely hold him responsible for sharing the financial responsibility.
It looks like your wedding was supposed to be in may, so your invites may be out already. I would ask your bridal party to help you get the word out. Actually they may be able to assist you in notifying vendors as well. Everyone will understnd why you didnt reach out personally. No need to put yourself through reaching out to everyone. That's alot to deal with.

I see this from a pure financial aspect at this point and I would suggest trying to regain as much money as possible to offset the costs. 1. Id read all contracts carefully and see how much $ you are able to recoup at this point 2. Sell the ring to offset costs 3. You can take him to court (maybe even small claims if it’s not too much money) and have him pay. This is purely financial at this point. Get the $ back that you can.