Canceling our wedding 2 days before

There are no words. I’m so sorry but it also sounds this is best for your peace & health too.

Don’t stress about everyone else right now. Give yourself a little time. About canceling the wedding, can your parents help pass the message onto their sides of the family? You can contact the vendors (if you’re too overwhelmed and they ask about payments/refunds) just let them know you need a few days to process and your immediate concern is to let all vendors and guests know. People should (and hopefully will) be very understanding right now.

Breathe...

Wow, so sorry to read this. You are not a failure and you will heal and recover. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and everything else will fall into place. Is there a person you trust that can approach all the vendors on your behalf? Maybe that would help reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed.

So sorry to hear.
If you had a wedding website that'd be great to use for such a thing or if you have everyone's emails or something to help mass announce it.
As for the money, some vendors might be nice about it and give you partial refund.

I'm so sorry. Have someone close to you help you notify everyone and get the word out. Don't take this all on yourself. Best of luck.

Hugs sweetheart!

I would enlist those those closest to you to help contact off the list. Give each a section and have them call & email.
Also the wedding website can
be great to have that added to.

You our aren't a failure, this type of thing happens way too often- it did to me & my FSS called his wedding off a month before( he did the right thing I am sad to say, she was not a nice person)....
It sounds as if the person you were with wasn't that nice either. "Emotional roller coaster" has bad written all over it. I'm sorry you went thru whatever you did with him, and are left dealing with this.
Try and look at the money you won't be able to recover as cheaper than a divorce later on.
And again, I'm sorry and I listen well....

I agree that having others/family help spread the word might be best.
But what if you still have the party with your guests if some people have already begun traveling and have made plans to attend, and you can’t get money back. Celebrate your relationship with those people. If it would be too hard for you to attend, allow your family to get together if they choose for a little reunion of sorts. Then the money won’t be a total waste.
I’m so sorry you are having to deal with this, but at least it was before the wedding. I’ll pray for you as you navigate through this difficult time, and hope the best for you in the future.