Can you still invite someone to the shower if they can't come to the wedding?

I would say Yes since you planned on inviting them to the wedding. I would still send them a wedding invite and let them know that you understand that they cant attend but you wanted to make sure that they knew they werent left out. But yes invited them to the shower!!

Iwould say yes, as long as long as you invite them to both.

I agree with Renee. You shouldn't invite them to the shower if you are NOT planning on inviting them to the wedding, but it is totally different if you are inviting them to the wedding and they just can't make it. So I'd still send a wedding invite.

I'm with Christine! Invite them to the shower and send a wedding invite out of politeness!

I agree w/all these ladies!

Absolutely.

I say you can invite them to the shower and still send them an invite as a keepsake.

Yes. As the other ladies have said, send her an invitation to the wedding, even though you know that she will be away.

We have actually decided not to send an invitation to those who responded no to our STD's. Our reason is, in our circle, if one receives an invitation to an event, one must send a gift(albeit smaller than the usual per plate gift in a wedding). I don't want to put people in a position where they think I am looking for a gift.

Our decision may not adhere to strict rules of ettiquette, however, we feel very strongly that we don't want people to feel obligated.

IMHO yes to the shower and wedding invitation.

Yes! The only time you shouldn't invite someone to a party (like an engagement party, shower, etc.) is when they aren't invited to the wedding.