can you invite someone to your bachelorette party if she is not invited to your wedding?

http://www.weddingquestions.net/if-you-invite-people-to-the-bridal-showersbachelorette-parties-are-you-expected-to-invite-them-to-wedding-2.htm

http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/general-wedding-planning-topics_general-wedding-etiquette_miss-manners

Arg. This is frustrating!! Why are the links messing up??

http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/general-wedding-planning-topics_general-wedding-etiquette_miss-manners

The first one work...still trying the second one...

I can't get the second one to work. I'm on the page and it's working for me, but when I post it on here it totally messes up. Frustrating!!

Got it to work....

I had to copy and paste in a new window and delete at the end for it to work.

@heavnsnt... thanks for your insight... someone else just shared (on another site) that she invited coworkers to her bachelorette party and told them that openly that she couldn't afford to invite them to the wedding.... but would like to celebrate with them... she said some declined the offer and others came knowing that they weren't invited. I think I am more comfortable now doing that...I liked your reasoning. Plus people would be upset anyway for not being invited to the wedding...so I am just going to be upfront

Plus I hope to not have a bachelorette party where anyone would have to pay more than for what they consumed...or fun they had

I dont see the problem with that... In fact I'm going to a Bachelorette party in 2 weeks which I'm not invited to the wedding for, and I completely understand and don't mind. I'm glad I was invited to this and get to at least enjoy some of the festivities

I agree that it's fine. While you should maybe personally explain WHY they're not invited to the wedding, you shouldn't have to hold to that same wedding list. Do you honestly hang out with cousin Betsy from Chicago enough to feel comfortable (and for HER to feel comfortable) flying solo at your bachelorette party because you couldn't invite your favorite happy hour coworker because your wedding is family only? Rubbish.

My WHOLE wedding is family, and family friends. I didn't (couldnt) invite the people from work I became insanely close to before the place went under because the person who chose me as the godmother of her child would be (rightfully) pissed I didn't invite her. You trust me to watch your kids if something dreaful happens to you, but hmmm I can't afford the $71.75 for the plate for you and your husband. If this person is TRULY your friend, they will understand that the only reason they didn't get an invite is because they won't throw a fit when they dont.