Can you invite more than the venue size?

We invited 252 and our venue fits 250. But we already knew at least 10 people weren't coming. I would be careful. If we didn't know that many people weren't coming we wouldn't have gone over. I don't recommend it.

But they should be able to accommodate 1 extra person, not 10-15.

1. No, you can't invite more people than the venue can accommodate. It could violate the fire code, and they could be legally forced to refuse admission to some of your guests.

2. I suppose it depends WHY the bride feels uncomfortable. I mean, if you're just like, "UGH, mom, your boss is such a tool!" then I think the person paying can still invite them. if you're like, "Uh, mom, last time he came to one of our parties, he grabbed my boob," then I think you get veto power.

No you cannot invite more people then your venue holds. How is that even a question?

If you are paying for your entire wedding you can invite whomever you choose.

You can do whatever you want, but it's a horrible idea. Odds are in your favor you won't have 100% attendance but there's always the risk and it's extremely poor taste to not have a chair for an invited guest. That's if they are even allowed in, as fire codes are enforced for a reason. Tell you mother to trim her list-she's got a set number and it's up to her to decide who makes the cut.

And please change your avatar. Otherwise you'll be id'd as a troll.

No...because what if all people on your list come? Then you're screwed.

The capacity is set up for a reason. Probably more of a fire code. So no. Do not invite more than 90 in hopes people will RSVP no.

Also, if your mom really wants people there that you are not uncomfortable, why can't you express that to her? I'm sure your mom doesn't want people there that YOU don't want there.

Wait...if you canceled the venue, why is this even a question?

No please don't do this. It may come back and bite you in the ass. The venue won't let you do this. And you don't want your wedding stop early because it's to many people.

Be very careful. For safety/insurance/code reasons venues cannot let you have more than their stated capacity. And when you invite more than capacity it's based on declines and that can bite you in the ass.

This is the celebration of YOUR wedding, which is witnessed by ppl you love and care about and want to be their with you. You don't have to invite anyone you uncomfortable with.

NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE NOPE

Beth,

it's still a question, because mom is still bringing it up. I was just looking for help on how to construct an argument for why this is a bad idea.

Nicole,

I did tell mom my feelings on this. She listened. She said she wouldn't do it. Then, she said she didn't care.

@spunkybutterva We are not trying to argue with you. We are trying to warn you. The venue will not allow you to go over capacity. Tell your mom that. If you are over capacity the day of your wedding the venue will shut it down. The venue will not run the risk trust me.

No. You don't want to piss off the Fire Marshall. I've been to events where it happened and it wasn't pretty.

No, this is ridiculous. Your venue has restrictions for a reason as @MrsA2B stated. Be very very cautious if you make the choice to invite someone additional.

That sucks. Well, if you are refusing her money and you are paying for it all yourself. Invite who you want. She can't force you to pay for people you don't want there!

I think she means...inviting more people knowing that everyone won't rsvp "yes." I could be wrong though. OP this is risky. I wouldn't want the headache.