Can I UNASK people to be in my wedding?

You can't kick someone out of your wedding party because they've been "annoying lately."

Typically, telling someone you no longer wish for them to be in your bridal party is a friendship-ending move, unless they were the one initiating it. So technically, yes, you can ask them, but expect to end the friendship and for there to be hurt/negative feelings toward you and FH afterwards.

It's also very rude to ask someone to back out of the wedding party, especially for trivial reasons such as "we don't want an uneven bridal party," or "they've been annoying lately."

If you are cool with severing the relationship (even cause drama within your family) then I guess you can ask them to not be in it..However it's very rude..the circumstances in which this would not be rude are few and far between. It's in very bad form to unask people. I say you just leave it be, if they drop out, they drop out. You should only ask people in the first place that you care about and love and really want them up there with you..not just as fillers.

I would sit and talk with them...maybe there's something they need to share with you as well? "check in" with them to be sure they even want to be a part of your big day still...they may be looking for a way out too - and at least then you can try to salvage the relationship...if you still want to that is.

Sure. Go ahead. "Unask" them.

Be prepared for everyone to completely trash talk you and talk about how rude and uncouth you are.

You are lacking in valid reasons to "unask" them. You're also lacking in other areas too but that's besides the point.

Not really. You can talk with them about FH's concern that the BP will be lopsided. And you can talk honestly and respectfully about costs of being in a DW. Bring it up and see what they say. Someone (or more) might feel relieved and drop out herself but still may be able to attend.

That's pretty much what i figured, although this is me looking for a way to end one of these friendships, they have not been just a tad annoying lately, this friendship has been on the rocks for a while. We were in there wedding and I said some things I shouldn't have about stuff and almost backed out of her wedding. Now there is a wedge between us, and its been growing wider ever since. We have attempted to go back to the way things were but it just isn't possible.

If you unask them be prepared to have a ruined relationship. I also wouldn't worry about having an uneven wedding party. Plenty of people do it and it looks completely fine.

I'm having an uneven party. It's fine.