Can i request no masks at my wedding?

View Quoted Comment Oh I agree! I just have to roll my eyes a bit because people are all for the "your wedding, your rules" logic as long as they agree with the rules. Some people are consistent but many aren't.

View Quoted Comment To me any kind of requirement, either way, is out of line. I agree that requiring a vaccine is more intrusive than requiring a mask. But take a look around these boards, plenty of people use the copout of "if people don't like it then they don't have to come" in response to a couple wanting to require a vaccine. So people should apply that logic the other way, too.


Again, I didn't disallow masks, though I preferred people not wear them. Whichever direction (for or against), vaccines, masks, whatever...for a wedding it should be at most "encouraged" or "discouraged", not "required".

I told her the same thing that I told you. You can absolutely do whatever you’d like as it is your wedding! Or in your case your reception. OP also doesn’t have a six-year-old child with compromised health issues attending. OP also is not having a 120 person wedding with dancing.

And also, take note how OP’s 25 person wedding will have everyone vaccinated outdoors. Your 120 person indoors(??) party will have a compromised individual who can’t be vaccinated and your asking if you should tell everyone else to get vaccinated even though you agree that does nothing to prevent your nephew from catching it or not. Big difference.

Hmmm but you’re having a 71 person wedding with dancing?? But you’re the safety expert? Wow lol

It’s a very personal decision. We still have many in our lives that we are wearing masks for - including children who aren’t able to get a vaccine yet. You can’t possibly be that in tune with everyone’s extended lives.

Actually it’s more, and actually yes. I’m having the same wedding that everyone else is allowed to have in our state. I’m not sure what my wedding has to do with your party? You asked the question about your party and your six year old nephew. I don’t have any one with compromised health issues attending my wedding. They will all be attending virtually. My wedding is also outside, but that’s besides the point. You asked a question and then you agreed that your method for safety wasn’t going to protect your nephew. I’m not sure why you’re so upset here? These are all very valid questions to ask. You posted a forum post about having everyone get vaccines and then you admitted that it’s not going to really protect your nephew anyway, so that leaves me with confusion

I too am following the rules for the state my wedding is in. I can’t control what other people do. You are such an internet bully.

I’m sorry you feel that way, I’m really not trying to be a bully, you’re just not really making any sense. Your concern is your nephew and you asked for advice. You asked if everyone should get vaccinated for your wedding because of him. I said that’s totally fine if you want everyone vaccinated, but that’s not going to prevent him from getting sick. You agreed and said that you know that’s not going to prevent him from getting sick. And now you’re upset. I’m sorry you’re upset, and I’m sure you’re going to have a great time at your party, but there’s a lot of misconception going around about the vaccine and I wasn’t sure if you were aware of it or not. But you are, which leads me to more confusion about why you would even post this question if you know it doesn’t prevent him from getting sick.

My question wasn’t “should everyone get the vaccine?” It was: was it rude of us to ask that all who attend are vaccinated. You took it in a completely different direction. I don’t need to be schooled on the science—-I’m very well informed. It was simply an etiquette question and you took it too far.

Your question is referring to the safety specifically of your nephew. I’m telling you that just because someone is vaccinated doesn’t mean they can’t pass it to compromised people. You said yes you know. Which defeats the whole purpose of the goal here. And that is why I was confused.

Girl, do whatever YOU want!! it’s YOUR day. who cares what anyone says. if anyone is scared/worried, they shouldn’t leave their homes 🤷🏽‍♀️

I, personally, would strongly encourage and recommend vaccination and if people are not comfortable with that then let them know when it’s photo time they will be asked to remove their mask. As it is your day but you also want to respect your guests so I feel like it goes both ways. Give them a disclaimer that this is something that’ll be asked or done and if they aren’t comfortable you and your guests can plan accordingly.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. We will be having about 22 people at our October wedding and i wasn’t planning on even mentioning this. We both are scheduled for our 2nd vaccinations this week, but have noticed a trend with our closest family not wanting to get the vaccine. At this point, I wouldn’t want to step on anyone’s toes about wearing a mask. I say come as you are and wear it if it makes you fee comfortable.

I think you have to give people the option to wear one. It's for their own safety and health. Yes, it's not ideal but it could save their life. Also, don't you have relatives who have taken vaccine already?

Since it is so small and seems like close family/friends I think it would be okay and worth mentioning to see if you can get their vibes on how they'd feel about this. Personally I don't care if they wear them during the reception it's more during the formal photos I would not want the masks to be in my photos. And according to the CDC you have to be within 6 ft of someone for a specific amount of time (i think its like 8-12 minutes) to actually be at risk of catching covid from a covid positive person.

I would mention that everyone will be considered fully vaccinated by the day of the wedding and say it is everyone's decision to wear a mask or not. If some people have elders at home or young kids they may feel better if they wore one. I don't think "requesting" that people not wear a mask is a good idea.

View Quoted Comment I’m so disheartened that so many people are saying it’s okay to demand nobody where masks cause you wouldn’t want to remember Covid. How about the person who takes Covid home to their child with a compromised immune system - people who have immunocompromised children shouldn’t be told to just stay home indefinitely - it’s wickedly selfish. If I was invited to a wedding where they valued what they spent on a wedding over my child’s left then I wouldn’t be friends with them anymore. It’s supposed to be about the marriage anyways.

If I were you I wouldn't like people to be on my wedding pictures with their mask either. And if there is going to be just your closest family and friends I don't see why you shouldn't ask them to please avoid wearing it.

I think that's absolutely appropriate for such a small and intimate affair. That's what we are doing. Small and intimate weddings are able to request things from their guests that you wouldn't normally be able to do with a bigger more impersonal wedding.