Can i request no masks at my wedding?

Or you can request for them to be a certain color if people are more comfortable with mask

View Quoted Comment Absolutely! And I couldn’t be happier for you! You’ve made enough sacrifices already! You deserve to have your day! Good Luck to you and CONGRATS!!!!!!!

View Quoted Comment You would make vaccinated individuals test for covid? That’s not even recommended by the CDC.... super invasive and overkill. And this pandemic is not “far from over” deaths and hospitalizations are almost 0. Sorry to report to you that life is going back to normal.


That being said, people should wear masks if they want, or not.

I think it's incredibly inappropriate to ask guests not to wear masks. Its fine to share with them all the safety protocols in place (including if all guests/vendors have been vaccinated) and to let guests know that masks are not required, but you should leave it up to them as to whether they want to wear a mask or not. If you create the sense that you are taking Covid seriously and the situation is very safe (small group, all outdoors, everyone has been vaccinated), it is very likely your guests will welcome the opportunity to be maskless in such a low risk environment.

I have been fully vaccinated and live in a state where more than 60% of people have received at least one Covid shot. I still wear my mask in social situations where I don't know everyone and don't know people's vaccination statuses, and I don't feel comfortable dining indoors yet nor do I go indoors in any public/shared space without a mask on. If I was in an outdoor setting where everyone had been vaccinated I would be so happy to ditch the mask and interact safely and normally!

View Quoted Comment Like I said- it all depends on the crowd and how many covid cases are in the county. We currently have 6 presumed positive cases for our county with 0 in the hospital. Of course there are special cases and guests should have the choice, just like they have the choice of attire, etc.

I am fully vaccinated and would still wear a mask to your wedding. Point is, it’s totally fine to let everyone know all of the precautions and say they aren’t required. But telling people they aren’t allowed isn’t cool. I know it’s a small wedding- but if I was told a mask wasn’t allowed no one from my household would come. Which is fine, but if we knew the bride or groom, we’d love to celebrate with you. We’d even probably end up taking out masks off at some point when we got to the venue and saw how much space there was to socially distance. But it’d be nice to bring it and wear it until that comfort was seen in person.

Let me put it this way: I have life threatening allergies, and carry an epi-pen. I’ve never had to use it, it’s a safety precaution, but it IS the key to me being comfortable in any situation that involves eating food . For me, right now, a mask is the same. It’s the safety precaution that makes me comfortable in crowd situations. If you ask me not to wear one, similar to if you ask me not to carry my epi-pen, I’m not going to come . Even if I care A LOT about attending the event, I have to look out for myself first.


It’s way out of line to say no to masks. What IS appropriate is to take all of the precautions you are discussing, and inform guests of the things you’re doing to keep them safe (“everyone in attendance will be vaccinated so we will not be requiring masks to be worn” )

Just like the bride that wanted to request all of her guests get vaccinated, you totally can request whatever you want. However, you have to be prepared that some people may not feel comfortable and will turn down the invitation based on that.

View Quoted Comment They’re not almost 0 where I live. At all. Far from this “0” you speak of. That being said, I still stand on my statement. Thanks.

Fine to let people know so many are vaccinated. But being vaccinated does not prevent you from getting it at all. It justs ensures one that is milder, less misery and no deaths. The only one still wanting a mask I would think might work or live with unvaccinated children of adults, and have reason to keep the precaution later. Just tell who is vaccinated, and let it go. Yhere is nothing you could say that would not sound really crass, when their point is saving lives of particular people, and yours is your pictures would look nicer without them. Most will be happy to be done with them.

View Quoted Comment I mean 927 people died yesterday, 54,000 people tested positive and around 38,000 people are currently hospitalized.
While things are much better than 4 months ago we’re not anywhere close to 0

Are you kidding? Yes you are out of line.

I definitely understand that you don’t want your pictures ruined by the “reminder.” I would feel the same way. Similarly to the “must be vaccinated” request, I would say you can absolutely ask this...if you are prepared for ppl to decline your invitation. You’re in a good spot with a small guest list in that you can get a read on the situation beforehand. Once you speak to everyone individually, it would be nice to include that information on your website. Many ppl (including myself) would feel uncomfortable not wearing a mask around a person who IS wearing a mask even if they are fully vaccinated. I don’t know that person’s situation or comfort lvl. Clearly that person has some justifiable anxiety that they or someone they have close contact with are still vulnerable. So some sort of announcement that everyone is comfortable with whatever decision you make would, I think, be appreciated by your guests. That’s just my 2 cents (and also how I’ll be proceeding if things aren’t back to normal by the time my big day rolls around).

View Quoted Comment I agree with Stacey. I would include something to the effect to inform guests that everyone will be vaccinated and cdc recommendations and allow them to make that choice.

I would let your guests make their own decision. Some people, even if vaccinated, might not feel comfortable in a larger group without masks. However, you might find that everyone is happy to be somewhere without having to wear one. I think if a lot of people are not wearing one, it will lead other guests not to. But I would not make it a request.

If it's not out of line to require people to wear masks, and/or get vaxxed, it's not out of line to request they don't 🤷🏻‍♀️ what happened to "if someone has a problem with that they don't have to come"?


Fwiw, I did not request people not wear masks but put on the website they were not required (bold, italicized). Hardly anyone did, but my wedding was outside, in the South. I did put in the BM chat I'd prefer people not wear masks walking down the aisle and if that didn't work for someone, let me know. We all stayed in a house together and nobody brought up any concerns.
Since your wedding is only 25 people, OP, I agree with reaching out to people individually and say something like you'd prefer people not wear masks but you understand if they choose to (assuming you do). How that goes over will depend on your crowd. My BIL and SIL got married in Feb, 200 people, indoors, full dance floor, no testing/question about vaccines/etc., hardly anyone wore a mask. Come back to the Northeast and people are wearing them on the beach. It depends on your circle.

View Quoted Comment Yes of course!! It makes me relieved to know not every part of the country has it as bad as here!
For sure the choice is in the individual on what they feel more comfortable

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Yes, there is hope and an end to this pandemic! We have had no transmission at our school, even with no masks and students being in groups (school of about 1,000 kids). I am so sad for everyone who is still virtual, it was especially hard on our elementary grades even though we only spent last spring virtual. After testing, it seems like they are about a semester or two behind based on previous test results. I can't imagine the toll taken on students who are still virtual and where covid is still rampant.

That’s incredibly selfish and disrespectful. If you don’t want masks don’t get married during a pandemic.

I don’t think you’re out of line at all. If you’re not comfortable going to large gatherings, don’t go to large gatherings. I’m not “banning” masks from my wedding, but my photographer already knows to avoid getting pictures of anyone in one.


You could always put something on your website saying that you and FH plan to have your wedding as normal as possible, and if guest are not comfortable, you respect their regrets. Just an idea!