Can I put invite only on my RSVP card?

Address it to Mr. and Mrs. Smith and put "X seats have been reserved in your honor". This should send the message.

Yes, it is rude to word like that. I put "We have reserved __ seats in your honor" and filled in the number based on the family. Then addressed the envelope with who the invitation goes to.

Put "__ Seats reserved in your honor" and fill it in for each invite. This will make it abundantly clear who is invited.

Also, people will still RSVP for uninvited people, you'll just have to call them and explain the "miscommunication."

Do not include Invite Only on the card. Use the # reserved seat options. I'm not sure the etiquette about inviting 16 and older. I always thought it was either all kids or no kids at all because you cannot split up families.

Agree with PP. Don't put invite only, put one of the above options.

On the same page as OHP, how are you dividing up families? I agree that 16 is an odd cutoff...

Not include any of those. Invite the exact people you want to come.

No, it's not okay to put either of those on your invitation or RSVP card. You can put the "__ seats reserved in your honor" on the RSVP card.

While it's okay to have an adult only wedding, it's not okay to have an arbitrary age cut off, like 16+. It's better to go adult only or invite children in circles so you do not split families. An example would be to only include your nieces and nephews, or only children related to you.

In addition to putting number of seats reserved, you could also put Adults Only on the RSVP card. Every wedding I've been to has done it that way. Everyone may not look at the website and if Adults Only is not clearly addressed, someone whose spouse cannot make it may bring their child as the second guest if they don't realize it.

This is one of our RSVPs that we just got back. I love the wording. Maybe something like this?

The correct way to do is the way it's been explained. You put the number of guests invited on the RSVP card. I wouldn't add anything about limiting your party to invited guests.

You may be one of the lucky ones and have every guest reply correctly, but there's always the possibility (or more accurately, probability) that a few couples will list the names of their three kids on the card. That's when you go into round two -- you have the unenviable task of contacting all of those who added guests to tell them that you're sorry, but the guest list is closed and you cannot accommodate anyone else. Some will react decently, and some will give you some push back. Stand your ground, stay polite, and make them realize that the issue is not negotiable.

No, you cannot put "adults only" on the invite. Nor any disclaimer/warning about other guests.

This is my RSVP. I'm addressing the invitation to only those who are invited.

@Angela Can I ask what you put on your website? Would you mind adding it in a comment?

We put "Please, no guests under 16. Thank you." 16 is arbitrary, but the reason was to avoid breaking up most families by including their 16/17 year olds as most of my fiancé's over 50 immediate cousins are that age or older. Most of the families that are affected have young children (5 or more children under the age of 10) and we did not want to exclude the older cousins that we are close to, but just couldn't accommodate everyone's large families.

I wonder the same thing i also want info on this the info i have received is its all about the way you address your invitations. Like say Ms Apple. So assuming Ms Apple is the only one supposedly put one seat is reserved for you but how do you do that when invites are printed together. Probably making you more confused so Im just going to do what I know make the invites the way I know to. To fit my budget.

My friends RSVP cards said " _ out of _ attending/declining". I'm planning on going with that and addressing invites as "and guest" fo r those with a plus one.

I just received an invite and the rsvp says "adult reception only" on it

Invite only is redundant- that's why you send an invite. If someone RSVPs with an uninvited guest, you address it with them individually.

Why is no one addressing the plus 1 issue? If you have singles invited, they all need a plus 1.

It is BEYOND rude to split families by having a random age cutoff like 12 or 16. If you can't afford to invite the entire family, make it legitimately kid-free and have the cutoff be 21. And as others said, address it to who is invited and individually speak with people who bring uninvited guests.