Can I bring my newborn/infant to your wedding?

I mean...I'm all for an adults-only wedding. The less chillun's the better in my book.

But I give free passes to parents with infants. If it's on the tit, it's legit.

I totally get the budget thing, it was just a suggested compromise if it will work, which it sounds like it won't. You may, however, see that there are guests that choice not to come if they cannot bring their children and I hope that you are prepared for that.

I just lol'ed reading your post. People are SO rude! I love children but I have no interest in having any at my wedding! Jesus, cut the umbilical cord for one night. You think they'd be dying for a night out since the baby has came.

@Sunshine Jenn. Pretty much summed it up. If your meal comes from a tata you're a two for one special in my eyes. Other than that, I need you to get a sitter lol.

I love reading posts like this because it makes me feel better about not wanting kids at my wedding. Even though we have to have kids at ours, we are keeping it at a minimum. If anything, I'm more comfortable with toddlers and big kids than babies. At least by then they have some manners and don't cry constantly because they are hungry or are tired and won't go to sleep.

Most people consider infants / newborns to be the exception to the "no kid" rule, since they typically can't be away from their mothers for long. I've seen plenty of infants at weddings and they mostly just sleep. I would re-consider your stance on infants.

We've said no kids (barring those in the bridal party) but I agree with Emily, if any of our guests had infants who were still being breastfed I wouldn't have a problem with them being there as they just can't be away from mum for that long.

Hang in there, Sammy! I had an adults only reception and yet TWO of my friends said, "but, um, I can bring my baby, right?!" Um, no, why would you be an exception? My plated dinner was $40 for kids under 12, whether they ate it or not. They both got a "Did you find a sitter yet?" text from me a few times. Just stick to your guns!

Umm, I highly doubt any venue would charge for a plated dinner for an infant given they don't even EAT solid foods and don't require a place setting.

I do feel like you need to reconsider nixing newborns/infants. While parents like a night away from their older children, most don't like time away from newborns/infants. They WONT be on your catering bill. They will be breastfed or formula fed. And will most likely sleep the whole time. If they don't hopefully the parent has enough sense to walk them out into the hall if they start to cry.

Above posters are right, infants are different than toddlers and older children. Newborns up to 6 months are so freakin' tired they'll zonk as soon as you put them in the car. I never had to use the ten million silencing accessories (bottles, pacifiers) I insisted on bringing everywhere when my son was a newborn.

That being said, however... it is YOUR wedding and it is downright rude of your guests to ignore your repeated instructions. I can't believe someone went so far as to write their baby's name on the RSVP card. If a name isn't on the invite or allotted as a guest, don't write it in!

I also want to have a kid free wedding because I have been to a lot of weddings that were ruined by children.

FSIL will have an almost 2 year old by then and I just know FFIL will demand that she be there...not even fighting that battle. But she might be the only exception. One of my best friends has a son that thinks he is hot shit at 7 years old and will take over the dance floor - complete with ninja turtle break-dancing. It is "cute and funny" for about 10 seconds then it becomes a thing where guests want him removed so that the adults can dance...my friend however will just let him go and not corral him. Two receptions have been ruined by his behavior and her lack of discipline. DO NOT ASSUME PARENTS WILL WATCH THEIR OWN CHILDREN. Our venue coordinator even told us we should have a "kid free" wedding since there is a pond located on the property.

I don't care what reason they come up with. there's no reason to insist in bringing a newborn to a wedding. and no, I don't consider breastfeeding to be a reason either.

growing up I didn't even know what bottle was since no kids in our family hardly ever used them. if my mom or any other relatives had a young baby and wanted to go to a event, they did not try and bring the baby. dad took care of the baby and brought the baby to be fed away from the festivities if the party was over feeding time.

the situation does not have to be that difficult in my book.

I've been to "Adults only" weddings where someone randomly showed up with their baby. In this case the kid was passed out and not disruptive, but I hope you're prepared for the fact that regardless of your efforts to prevent it, someone may just show up with a stroller!

That's well within your right. It's amazing how selfish and bossy some guests can be with respect to someone else's wedding.

Hi ladies, not sure how old this post is. My FSIL is in the wedding and due not even two weeks before our big day. We are having no kids at the wedding, and don't know how to approach and tell her that we would really appreciate if she respected our decision not to bring her infant to the wedding that she is in. Help!

Amen! Going through this now.

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If she can't bring her newborn, plan for her to not attend your wedding. There's no way in hell I would be leaving my 2 week for any wedding. It's entirely possible she may not even be able to attend your wedding if she has a c-section.

View Quoted Comment In reality, with infants ( no older babies) some mothers need to feed them as often as every 2 hours. And some babies will not take previously pumped milk from a bottle, and cannot stay many hours with a sitter. So basically, if you turn down infants, you likely won't see mom. Older babies are an issue. Infants are usually not a problem . But the whole leave them with a babysitter thing is often not possible with infants.

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Yes to this. we didn't invite any kids to our wedding except kids of family members. however, we made an exception for two couples with literal infants, 3 and 4 months old. babies that age can't be separated from their mothers for that long if the mother is nursing. we are so glad our friends were able to make it to our wedding. honestly neither of the babies made a sound the entire time that I can recall. infants are an entirely different story than toddlers in my opinion.