Can I bring my newborn/infant to your wedding?

OMG - how frustrating! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. I would just send them an email, since I wouldn't be able to keep my shit together on the phone, and explain to them that while you appreciate the fact that they are parents and like their little one dearly, that they cannot bring him/her.

I made the mistake of trying to work through the first one that we came across- I offered for her or her mom to sit in my bridal suite during the ceremony but then FH said "so you'll be ok if he freaks out during the first dance?" and I was like EFF... NO. So the next two that came in were FH's guests and I gave him a script to fb message them with "Hey! We're so excited you and wife are coming to the wedding! But we noticed you put son/daughter's name on the RSVP and we're actually having an adult only wedding, so let us know if you can find a sitter bc we'd hate for you to miss it!" That should do the trick!

I read this and busted out laughing!! Sammy- I feel the exact same way! I will literally have someone in place so that if kids show up, they will not be let into then sanctuary. I just want to tell people, "Every other dang day is about your freaking kid...not today...today is about me and my FH...leave your brats at home!!"

My FBIL wants to bring his 3 month old baby and then the whole family looked at my FH and I like we are child haters and that they can't believe they wouldn't want our nephew at our wedding. We don't hate children, we just don't want them at our wedding...period

I would call/email these people and just kindly inform them that this is an adult only wedding and that you hope they can still make it without their kids...I had to do this 3 times and no one (but my FBIL) got mad...good luck girl.

Luckily we don't have many guests with kids and the ones that do have kids have been really excited about being able to party without worrying about their children. lol. they've been able to find sitters or other family members from the other side of their family that aren't invited to watch them.

it's funny, the only person that's complained about us having an adult only wedding was FH's aunt who doesn't even have small children anymore. lol. shhh... no.

Haha Kayla exactly!! EVERY other day is about your kids!! And I can't remember who said it but sitting through a ceremony for a child would be torture!! What really irks me is these are all friends of ours that recently (like in the past 2-3 years) had a wedding and I'm like, you would never have wanted anyone to do this to you SO WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS TO ME?!?!?!

Haha Jenna, I figured new parents would JUMP at the chance to have a night off to have a nice dinner, and free drinks and just party with friends! But I guess I'm wrong....

Haha FH's aunt sounds like a winner.

Would it be possible to help provide child care/babysitting so that the parents you know could come and not have to worry about it on their own?

Seriously.. it's not that big of a deal, however, if you want an adult only reception, then that's fine. Just roll with the punches.

We had babies at our wedding, and I hardly even noticed them. Most of the babies and kids were gone by the time the main stuff was over.

Seriously, I just want to have a fun day and the sound of a child shrieking, yelling, crying, or whining drives me UP A WALL.

Most people see a babe in arms different than a child, which is likely why their is confusion. Moms need to nurse, and if these are newborns, no, most parents won't jump at the chance to leave them. Older kids are a different story.

Now, this isn't really your problem unless you really wanted them at your wedding, as it's very possible they won't come if their infant isn't welcome. But, it's your wedding, and you get to decide who you want there. Hopefully your friends are open to getting a babysitter so they can celebrate with you.

I'm also saying no to children at the wedding, but unfortunately my FSIL will be having a baby 1 month before the wedding so there will have to be an almost newborn there. She can't just NOT feed her baby and I want her to be there.

I understand your hate for the sounds of kids, though. I cannot even eat if there is a kid crying at a restaurant. My FH or family or whoever I'm there with has to distract me enough because it triggers my anxiety BIG TIME. God help me when it's my time to have one.

Wow that's pretty ballsy. D: lol

I just don't understand...I mean I love kids and we're not having an adults-only wedding, but honestly if I had a kid and was invited to a wedding, I'd be getting a babysitter. Parent's night out!!

Sammy, I'm the same way. It drives me crazy to hear a kid whine and cry. It's no so bad with babies, cause I can understand it - they're babies (but still not invited to the wedding!). But older children who should know better just grinds my gears!

Omg, I'm so glad you are all mostly on the same page!! Haha! I'm REALLY sorry if you cannot leave your child for one night but I'm not budging!!

Ugh this one of the things I refuse to budge on as well! No kids at the ceremony OR the reception. We are, however, offering child care for the whole day (3pm-12am) and I'm sure a few couples will take advantage of it as they would rather have their kids onsite instead of leaving them for 6-8 hours. Oy vey....

If you have the option to provide child care, mom can leave the reception to nurse as needed and be present for most of the party. Maybe there is an extra room at your venue that you can hire one or two babysitters to watch the kids/infants while their parents party the night away. Just a suggestion for a compromise.

Were doing an adult only reception and not providing childcare. My kids have never been invited to a wedding and I lived to tell the story lol

I can't afford for our families to bring an extra 20+ kids to our wedding. For that price tag I could afford the videographer I'm in the fence about.

Don't forget its your wedding. You don't have to compromise. Though it sounds harsh. I've missed plenty of events due to having little ones at home. It goes with the territory of being a parent.

Please don't provide childcare. If people don't think it's worth a babysitter to come to your wedding then...that's sad.

Margaret, my budget is what it is and paying for someone else's kids childcare is not part of it. I'm getting married and being a gracious host to 100 of our closest friends, the LEAST you could do is hire a sitter yourself.

Haha, A & K, that's true, it comes with the territory!

Leslye thank you! I didn't feel like that at first, but you're completely right!