Can i ask my friend to be a second maid of honor after already asking her to be my bridesmaid?

I wouldn’t. A maid of honor isn’t who does the most for you, it’s who you are closest to. The only duties a maid of honor should have is getting a dress, holding your bouquet at the altar, and maybe making a toast at the reception.

I wouldn’t ask her to be a second MOH because she doesn’t need a “higher” title yo help you out. Yes most people on here will say what @Kelly said but just cuz they aren’t required doesn’t mean people don’t choose to go above and beyond for their bride. I say let anyone who wants to help you do just that and in return give them a kickass bridesmaid gift!

I think it would be totally fine to ask her! My MOH is in another country and can’t do much to help with my wedding and so I asked another of my bridesmaids to pick up the slack and be kind of a co maid of honor. She was more than happy!

What she's doing isn't MOH duties, anyone can help out or plan things, it has no bearing on their role. Unfortunately I think that asking her now might be quite hurtful to your current MOH so I would just make sure you thank her for all her help and maybe splurge a bit more on her thank you gift for all her help

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Agree with this. My MOH is my sister and she hasn't ever been in a wedding. My 3 bestfriends are going to do most of the coordinating on ideas and that's fine. That doesn't mean I am making them a higher title. Everyone and anyone can help plan things. The bridal party as a whole should do that it isn't one sole person's responsibility.

OP: You didn't pick your bridal party to be party planners did you? Probably not, they are picked because they are your nearest and dearest not who helped more.

View Quoted Comment ThIs. The best way to show appreciation for this friend who is doing so much, it’s just to get her a really thoughtful gift