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Savvy June 2022

Can a bride ask her bridesmaids to get a spray tan?

Rebecca, on September 18, 2021 at 12:06 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 24

So my guilty pleasure of reading anything wedding related on Reddit struck again. I found this post on Reddit, from a few days back where a bridesmaid doesn't want to get a spray tan for her cousins wedding, and the bride isn't happy, and everyone from the other bridesmaids to the family are all...

So my guilty pleasure of reading anything wedding related on Reddit struck again. I found this post on Reddit, from a few days back where a bridesmaid doesn't want to get a spray tan for her cousins wedding, and the bride isn't happy, and everyone from the other bridesmaids to the family are all upset and annoyed at the bridesmaid and think she's wrong.

Most people on Reddit agreed with the bridesmaid, though I did see a few posts defending the bride or criticizing the bridesmaid, a few upvoted but a lot downvoted.

The interesting thing is that the bride in this case offers is paying, and I know we say that bride should get no say if she's not paying, but if she is paying, is it okay for a bride to ask her bridesmaid to get spray tanned? Reddit seemed to disagree, but the demographics here and Reddit are clearly different, so I'm curious as to what the posters here think. Personally I would never ask a bridesmaid of mine to get or not get a spray tan, I'd leave it up to them,

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  • M
    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I SO agree with all of this. I literally cannot imagine telling my bridesmaids that their skin color was unacceptable. In this case, offering to pay does not absolve this overstepping bride since spray tans are way more involved than just getting professional makeup or hair styling for the day.

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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    Like someone else on the Reddit post commented, pictures have become more important than reality. I hate it. This isn't a day to make everyone look like your own perfect line up of barbie dolls. What have we become?? I would never require such a thing and if it was required from me, I'd refuse on principle.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
    Mrs.a ·
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    It’s a little bit extra And may be too much to ask…



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  • Samantha
    Super May 2022
    Samantha ·
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    As a bride I would be fine offering them to but not "making" them. As a bridesmaid, if that's what the bride wanted, I would do it, but I love spray tans lol. Healthy option to look better for a few days!

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