Calling April + May 2020 couples, tell us how your wedding plans have been impacted

I took the survey. Mine is May 30th and we are going to probably make the call by next Monday, or at least update our guests - we should have been sending our invitations later today (exactly 60 days before!)

Our venue has been frankly awful to us and are charging us $2,500 to reschedule since there is technically no regulation cancelling the date. We may even look into a new venue and lose our deposit because the communication has been that bad. As everyone here knows, planning a wedding is more than just showing up on the date. I don't think I can even get my dress in time, all my other events were cancelled, and even our honeymoon was cancelled. Not to mention, it needs to be safe for our 175 guests.

All of our other vendors have been amazing and are on board to help us out should we need to reschedule. We are planning to still get married on the date in a small ceremony and reschedule the reception for September, assuming clerk's office is open by then!

Hi there, so sorry you are going through this too, you're not alone! I've just posted a lengthy message regarding this issue. I think it would really help you to read it.

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-forums/june-couples-postponing-due-to-covid-19-encouragement/e2e6a03e5635af33.html

All the best,

Natalie

We called off the originally planned church ceremony and reception on 4/17/2020 because churches are closed and California is under shelter in place until the end of April. We are still getting married but not the same way. My dad is officiating and then our witnesses will sign our marriage license and that's about it. We might do a quick champagne toast but otherwise soon after my new husband and I will leave and head to our place together for the first time. I didn't want the stress of picking a new date at the end of this year when we aren't sure when things will be safe. We decided to do our dream church ceremony and reception for our anniversary next year. Since our original date is a Friday the only request our venue made was we keep it on a Friday. So next year 4/16/2021 I will have my marriage recognized by the Catholic church and party my heart out. (crossing my fingers this doesn't drag into next year)

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It really does help when all the vendors you already put time and effort into finding are willing to work with your new date.

Hoping your new date goes off without a hitch

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That is also our date and we were considering doing the same thing. If you do get married on the 22nd, how are you going about your one in January? I really want to have that big ceremony, but don't know if it'd be weird if we did a traditional ceremony when we're already married.

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I guess it would be a vow renewal, we're still going to have an officiant. Not sure how we'll go about telling people we're legally married. I think people will understand. The date means something to us, so we really want that to be our legal wedding date.

April 26 was our date. We rescheduled 2 weeks ago and it so unreal. In my mind my countdown is still going (24 days) however, when I look at the countdown with the new date of September it hits me (165 days). It hurts, a lot. But after a bunch of movies on a lazy, quarantined weekend, a pint of ice cream and a bag of cookies....I do not need a fancy piece of paper to tell me who I am spending my life with. September 13th is our new date. After realizing all of our favors have the April date on them, I am thinking of some kinda of creative way to put a line through the date and write out the new one. This pandemic has but a lot of stress on everyone, not only in weddings but with work and home life. Just have to remember, everything is going to be ok and remember to breathe (because we forget too). As far as our vendors, I wanted to make sure the venue and the photographer both had a coordinating day. That was most important. hair and make up and the DJ kinda fell into place after that. On the bright side, I do not have to rush to finish our center pieces and most of everything is done. So its sit back and have some wine now that my crazy mind has settled a bit. Stay strong brides to be! And remember to breathe!
(I did take the survey though)

I took the survey too. We were originally May 9th, with a ceremony and reception scheduled, but all non-essential businesses have been closed here for a couple weeks and there's no end date in sight. So now we're planning on just going to the courthouse when they re-open and taking pictures in the park that day. Then later in the summer or fall, once things have calmed down we'll just host a celebration of our marriage brunch or dinner for our local guests.

It was a tough decision to make, as I'm sure everyone else here has experienced. We're hoping to still use some of the vendors where we can (hair/makeup for pictures, maybe florist for pictures or celebration dinner, photographer) though unfortunately we've lost some deposits

My wedding is April 25th 2020 we had to cancel, we are just doing a small ceremony with our immediate family only of 10. Then we are going to do everything else later with all this is over.

We are sad that we had to postpone our April 25 wedding to September 26. We were able to get all our wedding. But every day is anxiety filled hoping we don't have to do this again.

I had to cancel my 5/16 wedding in NY. My father had a kidney transplant a few years ago and is on anti-rejection medication that greatly surppresses his immune system. He's considered high risk and I just obviously don't want to take that chance. I'm not sure when we will have the wedding but I decided to cancel for now and wait it out. Unfortunately, some of my vendors have been absolutely awful with my decision. They are refusing to issue refunds even though my wedding falls right in that 8 week period the CDC put forth. Essentially, it's a "well that's not our problem, you should just postpone" situation. It's really disgusting and disappointing, to be honest. With all the uncertainty around health and jobs, you would think they would cut us some slack.

Our date was originally May 15, 2020. We rescheduled to July 10, 2020. Logistically, it was simple to coordinate with the venue, vendors, and guests.

When we first rescheduled, I felt incredibly relieved, but now several weeks later, there is no end in sight and the uncertainty is creeping in again. From what I know, most of our guests' livelihoods have not been affected; however, there may be some lingering fears about being in a room of over 200+ people. We shall see...

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Thank you so much!!! I am keeping my fingers crossed!

2020 brides, we will get through this!!

I just took the survey. Our wedding was originally scheduled for April 25th and made the tough decision to postpone to October 2nd. We still have concerns that COVID will not be gone by then but are hopeful we will not have to postpone a second time. We have been very lucky during this process - all of our vendors (minus the officiant) were available on our new date. To top it off, the vendor who made our invitations agreed to do another round for FREE. All in all, I only had to spend an additional $100 for the "save our new date".

I do agree with a lot of the above comments that although we've had a smooth transition, some of our guests that we've vented to have been a bit insensitive. We can tell they are trying to be empathetic to our situation, but some of their comments are not what we need right now.

My financé and I both work in healthcare and could have already been exposed

We've been around our parents and brothers the whole time and no one is showing symptoms. We've been careful to stay home as much as possible and to wear our masks when we have to go out.

Luckily my uncle is our officiant and he's still okay with coming down to marry us! So our wedding is still on for May 15th, but we're limiting our guests to only our immediate family. We're going to livestream our wedding so our grandparents, extended family and friends can still tune in. Not exactly what we had envisioned, but we think it'll still be fun! Our photographer is still game on capturing our wedding, so we're thinking about doing some fun masks on shots!

Hope everyone is staying safe and healthy!

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We were going to be wedding date sisters

I hope your July wedding works out beautifully though! I'm so ready for this craziness to come to end. So sorry you're still dealing with the stress, like planning a wedding isn't already stressful enough

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I can't believe your vendors are being so nasty!! That's just rude! They obviously are aware of the situation and should be considerate!

Guess you know who NOT to go with when you decide on the rescheduled date.

Also did the survey.
We were originally supposed
to get married on April 18th, but with everything that was going on we were
able to postpone until September 12th (hopefully) all of our vendors were
actually really great about it and locked in the new date pending shut down
nothing changed but the date, it’s still at the same place and same time. We are very lucky that all of our vendors were willing to work with us, most without asking for extra payment. We did do a mini ceremony on April 4th in my kids backyard...We didn't want our license to expire. I decided not to use any of my original decorations or wedding attire. I used my bridal shower decorations instead.

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This is also our date. Best of luck to you

View Quoted Comment Thanks, same to you. We officially locked the date of Oct 3rd. Hope things go according to plan