Called off engagement...

Sorry to hear i highly recommend pre marital counseling. That was seriously the best thing I've ever done. And so worth the money. FH and I argue all the time but we learned how to positively argue, if that makes sense. I hope things work out for you.

Sorry to hear that. Glad you're not rushing into things without working them out first, though. Have you considered visiting with a relationship counselor?

I would definately suggest premarital counseling. It's helped FH and I grow together a lot.

I am so sorry you are going through this but you should both be proud that you were strong enough to realize that you weren't ready right now. I would go with counseling too. HUGS.

I am sorry to hear this, but am happy you are strong enough to realize that this is the right thing for you.

I can't suggest premarital counseling enough. FH and i absolutely love it. While we started, not due to any serious issues, but because we wanted to just strengthen our relationship, it has been the best thing ever. We have a stronger relationship than ever. It can work wonders!

Awww, I'm so sorry. I think it's a very smart decision. Planning a wedding is very stressful and can defiantly cause tension in any relationship. Take time for yourselves with no mention of a wedding for a while. Hopefully everything will work itself out.

I also agree with the other posters about counseling. It's very helpful to get advice from an unbiased 3rd party.

When I was having a hard time, my mom gave me the book The Love Dare. She and her husband read it together and it truly changed both of their lives. I only read about half of it and I noticed a difference in the way I treated FH and our relationship as a whole. I definitely recommend it to anyone getting married whether your love is barely there or super strong. You can get it for free at lovedarestories.com

Planning a wedding can be stressful and cause arguments where previously there were none.

Speak with a marriage counselor.

I’m with the idea of premarital counseling like everyone else.

I'd say communication is key. Definitely talk through EVERYTHING and be completely honest with each other.

Another vote for some premarital counseling but here are some other things to think about:

What have you been arguing about? Do you feel like you really want to work things out? Are your arguments nasty?

Premarital Counseling has been awesome. Even my FH which was not for it and I swear gave me the cold shoulder on the drive there...has really felt like it brought better communication and openness for us. I was in awe of how even after 1 session we both became so much better for one another (and he is already a awesome fella!). I really hope you guys can find some ways to overcome whatever has you in the grips at this point. I would wait a few weeks to make any big calls to vendors (if you can)...but I think it was probably a big step to "call off" the engagement so maybe it might take a bit more to get you guys on track for your wedding date? But that is up to you to do whatever you feels is best. Wishing you better days!

Another vote for counseling here. If you think this is something that can be repaired, I wouldn't cancel anything. FH and I's fights increased dramatically after we got engaged. I have also learned from personal experience, I would not share this broken engagement with ANYONE (including friends and family) until you know for sure it wont work out. It will only jade people's opinions of your relationship and they will be less likely to be supportive of it.

Depending on what the main issues are, I agree with premarital counseling. In addition to The Love Dare book, The book Five Love Languages and Wired that Way are super helpful in any relationships!

As well as the counseling I suggest The Five Love Languages and The Five Apology Languages. It definitely helps understanding that we speak differently and show our appreciation and affection differently. The Five Apology Languages was great in realizing why with some people it's harder to forgive and forget, it's usually because we are speaking two different languages. I think it's okay to hold of on canceling venues for now. If you reevaluate and decide to keep the april date then you have that out of the way. But make sure you don't cancel too late to avoid fees.

Yes, you can absolutely wait another month before informing vendors. Things may change in that amount of time. Also, many vendors give you a window of time where you can reapply all or part of your funds paid to a different date (our policy on this is 6 months) so it may behoove you to wait a month. However, I wouldn't wait any longer than that as your vendors may be able to re-book the date if given enough time.

Good luck!

Premarital counseling and also read this book, it's awesome! Whoever you see for counseling may actually refer this book to you both. Hope everything works out!

I'm sorry to hear that. But, I think you and your (former) FH are making a smart decision. I hope it works out for you both!