Cake and Punch Wedding on New Year's Day?

If you are inviting your family out to dinner to celebrate your wedding on a Holiday you need to pay for it.

Have a ceremony at a non meal time. Do cake and punch then go to dinner later with hubby.

OR

You need to pay for Anybody you invite to the dinner. Anyone invited to the ceremony needs to be invited to the dinner. ( Tiered receptions/dinner parties are rude)

You need to completely host whoever you invite anywhere on your wedding day.

So you are inviting people out to dinner that weren't invited to the ceremony and asking them to pay?

Not a good idea.

Just host the cake and punch.

Also, if you are getting married for tax purposes, you'd have to actually get married on December 31.

You don't invite people out to eat and then make them pay for it. why would you even think of such a thing?

If you get married on January 1st, you are going into another year unmarried. You're literally getting married in another year from the day before so it doesn't matter if you do it in January 1st or November, it's still a different year.

If you're going to invite them, you will have to cover their meal 100%. If you cannot afford to do so, do your cake and punch and let everyone be on their way.

The point of the cake and punch Reception was to accommodate are family and friends that came to the wedding. When I mentioned having close family to dinner, I meant more along the lines of my mom, his mom and siblings.

1. If you are inviting friends and family members out to dinner, you need to pay for their meals. If a different family member has offered to host it for you, then that's okay. But no, you do not ask people to come to dinner as a host and then not pay. No.

2. A cake and punch reception is perfectly fine if that's what your budget allows but please, fully host it and you need to have it a non-meal time. Personally, on New Year's Day, I almost always have bottomless brunch reservations for hangover eats. Or a date to lay on the beach, haha. I think if you're doing a cake and punch reception on NYD, you should have it later - after lunch but before dinner.

It doesn't matter who you meant, you would still need to pay for their meal if you are inviting them to celebrate your marriage.

If I was the type of person who got tanked on NYE, the very last thing I'd want to do on New Year's Day is go to a wedding and eat cake and punch (does anyone really serve punch anymore?) Nothing wrong with a cake and punch (again, echhh) party but not on New Year's Day. I'd want bagels and coffee at least. On any other Sunday afternoon, it's lovely.

Agree with everyone else, you must pay for dinner/drinks. If it's just a few people, why is this a big deal? Of course, even if it was more than a few, you still gotta pay girl.

If it's all in the same day, you pay

And I would not do it on New Years Day. Why???

I would be so hungover all day. Doesn't matter what time the ceremony is.

How much rudeness can be stuffed into one plan? I think you win. Hands down.

You're asking people to spend a holiday with you and pay for the privilege. So you can spend your money on a honeymoon instead of hosting them. You're not accommodating them at all. You've extended an invite that will be opened an greeted with, "oh shit,really?"

You need to really, really get a grip. My god, I thought I'd heard everything.

And yes, if you get married before midnight, you're married for the whole year.

A couple of things, I would not come to anything on NYD. (It's a holiday, yes, but that day is actually my birthday so it's a hard pass for me.) My FH and I are having a very small ceremony at the Grand Canyon for our wedding, and we will be taking everyone out to dinner after, we will be hosting. (For example, my sister will be driving around 6 hours to come to this thing.) We are inviting these people to see us get married and essentially, elope, and my FH and I want to take them out to dinner as a thank you for coming. I would suggest you do the same, if you decide to take them out.

I would not want to go to a wedding on NYD. Honestly, I'd want to go to a cake and punch wedding even less. If someone was going to feed me a real meal, I'd be less salty about it, but I would not want to get up from my couch, get all dressed up, and drive somewhere for quick cake and punch.

I would 110% not travel out of town for a NYD wedding unless you were my sibling or best friend. That would mean either traveling on NYE, which is chaotic and extremely expensive, or waking up early to travel on NYD, which I did this year, and is absolute hell.

And I'm sorry, but it's so rude not to pay for anyone you want to get dinner with afterwards, and it's even more rude that the people you want to eat with are your immediate family. That's a very small, important group of people. Pay for their food or don't eat with them.

^^@fallinthegarden is spot on.

OP, have you considered eloping?

Unfortunately, you have to pay for their meals if they come out to dinner because it's no longer considered a cake and punch reception. Also, people are going to be tired after celebrating New year's Eve. Why have it on that day?

Hmmm, NYD is a big one for me and my FH. I'd go to a wedding for someone I loved on NYD, but I'd definitely side-eye a cheaply hosted event on a holiday.

1. if your family is given enough notice, they will happy to attend your wedding, even on NYD. Be clear in your invitation so your guests know what to expect. Do not expect people to travel.

2. Schedule the ceremony for mid afternoon, so that a cake and punch reception makes sense. It also gives people time to sleep in, and eat a midday meal before your wedding.

3. If you invite people to dinner, you pay. Period. Pick something you can afford- pizza, pasta etc.

4. If you don't invite people to dinner, someone may make a suggestion that you all go to "____" and have dinner together. In that case, it would be understood that everyone was responsible for their own tab. It will however, also be obvious that you chose the cake and punch reception to get out of paying the larger bill.