Cake and Punch Reception

But wait Jacks, I don't know what you mean that I only responded to those who validated my post. It's clear that you didn't read any of my posts.

I think that sounds fine. But maybe don't advertise that you are taking your family to dinner afterwards. Tiered receptions are usually considered rude, but no one could say you aren't allowed to take your family to dinner after the cake and punch reception.

I guess UO but I agree with @bemyguest ....you have to eat dinner at some point lol. You would have already hosted a cake and punch reception for your guests. Now later in the day you're choosing to go out to eat with your immediate family and a couple friends. I guess I don't get what difference it makes if you go out to dinner later on with just you and your new spouse or with you guys and your immediate families.

Maybe if she was doing separate invitations and calling it a second reception but just keep it low key and call it going out to dinner with family. I don't really see the big deal.

I'm in the minority, but I also feel like what you're planning is fine. Have your ceremony and cake/punch reception at a non meal time (which you seem to be already planning), then after the reception is OVER (because non meal time) have dinner with your friends and family. Seems fair to me, everyone else is going to be leaving so they glcan get food, why can't you? I would only see a problem if you weren't inviting the everyone from the ceremony to the reception. And that doesn't seem to be the case.

So do exactly what you planned, agree with the people who say it's fine, and have a great wedding.

Don't do it! It's rude. Just have a private ceremony and invite who you can feed (close family members).

I don't think that it's rude. You are marrying the love of your life and going into debt to do so to make others happy is not an option. I am quite sure that the church and all invited guest to the cake and punch will definitely understand.

So... I saw this was an old post. I’ve been reading through it to find out suggestions about a cake and punch reception. What did you end up doing?

I’m stuck between two choices for our wedding day. We are wanting to get married at Chapel Dulcinea which only allows a 90 minute time slot for ceremony, cake and toast. Our immediate family and closest friends are invited. We are trying to figure out whether to just do cake and punch with an informal dinner after (meaning whoever wants to come can/everyone pays there own meal) or have a full blown dinner reception somewhere. The cost for some of these restaurants to have a sit down dinner reception for 35 guests is crazy!