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I honestly agree! I AM WITH IT! it is not rude or inappropriate at all. Yes i would be cautious with some folks/location/venue but if you know your people well and have it sorted, why not? Its suppose to be a celebration of you and the hubby right? As long as your supplying the ice that's all that should matter! if this is something you're interested in i hope you do it and do it well! Don't be ashamed girl! if people leave or get irritated perhaps throw a fit? Are they even really there to support you in the first place? Now that's what i call rude. Disregard any stuck-up, prepy, old school comments above. Probably the type of people that whine when they cant get a free drink. CONGRATS THO! Super happy for you.

I consider myself pretty relaxed compared to some posters I've read on this subject, but even I can't imagine doing this for a wedding even a casual one.

Now, it sounds like you're already planning to provide some alcohol, so I'm not sure why you'd want to formally mention BYOB too anyway. In my experience, people who really want to drink something particular are probably going to sneak their booze of choice in anyway, and since this is a backyard wedding, I'd say that's even more likely.

Maybe just have some informal conversations with those guests who you think would care about the alcohol selection and let them know that you're providing some limited alcohol, but they're welcome to bring other alcohol if there is anything in particular they would like to drink as well.

If you ask guests to BYOB to a backyard wedding, they are going to perceive it as SUPER casual. It depends on the vibe you are going for. If the wedding is going to be super laid back and people can dress casually and show up in street clothes, go for it, but if you are expecting people to get dressed up and want your wedding to have an air of prestige to it, I would not ask guests to BYOB.

This post is old, but it's not OK to ask guests to bring anything to an event that you're hosting.

As long as you know your crowd it's fine. I am doing this at my wedding. I put a little extra info card in with our invitations saying beer and wine will be provided, but you are welcome to bring your favorite beverage. My family and friends are very laid back and our wedding is going to be casual and laid back as well. I think it just depends on what tone your setting. Like if you are going to have real glassware and a 4 course meal I would not suggest BYOB but if you are like me and will be using red solo cups and chinet paper plates I say go for it!

Ignore everyone saying it's tacky or inappropriate. I have many friends/family who are either sober-living or don't know their own limit. So... I don't see any reason why a bride would be expected to spend hundreds to support a very destructive behavior/habit. The fact that so many commenter believe a wedding is only worth it if they can consume alcohol is WILD. There's more to an experience than just numbing yourself. I am NOT ashamed to host a BYOB reception & anyone reading this shouldn't be either. Much love

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Dry weddings are perfectly respectable particularly if the couple being celebrated are sober-living. Not drinking would be a sign of respect to the hosts. However, you consider a middle ground as BYOB. So what really is your argument-- weddings can still be about alcohol only as long as the guest provides for themselves? Then it really is about who pays and not about a sober, healthy lifestyle. Do you think your guests would slip flasks anyway if your wedding was dry?

Well personally I wouldn't care what others opinions are concerning it...do what works best for you. Personally for our wedding, we are NOT providing alcohol. We will provide beers, soda and water. If they want something else then they will need to bring it. This is my party... it's not about the guests for me.

I would provide some beer and wine, but tell guests via word of mouth that if there's something specific/fancier they want to drink that they can feel free to bring it. My brother had a similar problem, so he provided beer and wine and my uncles and other people that like to drink brought their own fifths of liquor for them and close family.