Byob?

Yeah, maybe not for your wedding. For a BBQ and any other party, sure, but not a wedding.

Honestly, I'd be really unamused at being asked to bring my own alcohol for a wedding. Just comes across as super tacky. Not really what you do for a wedding. More of a casual BBQ.

I agree with Nas ^^^. Definitely not for a wedding.

You’ll have to know your crowd on this one.
FYI: this is a sore subject here, not having enough alcohol to serve everyone the entire night with 0 cost of the guests is frowned upon be ready to hear that “you should just push your wedding back until you can afford to properly host your guests”.
Personally I would probably be a little put off by this, and I wouldn’t do it, but it’s your wedding and you know your guests ultimately no one can make this decision but you.

Yes, that would be weird for a wedding. Shop around deals, do the rebates, and buy in bulk to get all the alcohol for the best price but don't make guests pay for it.

You know your crowd, but I wouldn't ask people to being theirs. However, I wouldn't think it was tacky if someone said (in person) "we'll have x, y, and z, but we're ok with people bringing something else if it's their preference". On paper maybe "open bar with beer & liquor. Outside alcohol permitted" or something like that. Also, some places will accept returns on unopened liquor and beer cases, so buy all you can & return what you need to.

Being = bring

For a wedding yes it's wrong. I think it's tacky. Maybe just serve his or her drinks or have certain drinks just available.

Even for a casual backyard reception, I would be a little offput if I was asked to bring my own drinks for a wedding. Thankfully, no one I am terribly close with in my family would ever do this so there is a pretty good chance I would decline the invitation seeing BYOB as a strong indicator of how the wedding was going to be hosted.

No byob. It is rude to have your guests bring their own alcohol, not to mention it's tacky for a wedding no matter where it is at. I know I would be put off & probably decline if i had to bring my own and/or purchase my own alcohol. You need to supply all the alcohol for your guests. It doesn't have to be a full bar. It can be beer, wine & if possible a signature drink or 2. It's a wedding, not a backyard 4th of July party.

Not appropriate for a wedding.

View Quoted Comment Make sure you check return policies in advance here in Texas you can't return it once it has been chilled.

Any time you host any party you provide the alcohol. BYOB is inappropriate for a wedding.

Yeah I wouldn't. I would also make sure whatever you have is being served by a licensed bartender so that you have someone responsible and insured if someone overindulges.

As others have mentioned, BYOB is not appropriate for a wedding.

I went to a wedding that was BYOB so let me break it down. The venue was never full at one time because people kept leaving to go to the liquor store. There wasn’t a bartender serving and regulating drinks so some irresponsible people got beyond wasted. Others didn’t even know it was BYOB so they got pretty irritated and left.
Its just all around poor hosting, and people should be able to expect to be served alcohol at a wedding. I would provide it so people don’t have to spend money, or have to leave to go buy some

Not appropriate- you should be supplying food and the alcohol for the wedding- its just polite since you are inviting and hosting your guests. shop around, buy in bulk, you are saving a lot of money already by not having to purchase it through a venue. you could also hire someone to bar-tend ( just mix basic drinks, pour wine, etc) as well, which could help control the liquor more so people don't go totally crazy if they are serving themselves. just a thought!

Maybe for a get together or a cook out, but for a wedding, you should host your guests. I would be like....say what???...if I got a BYOB on a wedding invitation.

I mean is your reception a tail gate party? That is what you would be reducing it to by asking peeps to bring their own drinks.

Wow you all are stuck up!!!!! do whatever you want its your day!!!

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I am with you! I am getting married in April and just came across this because I was looking for a card or something to put in with my invitations about BYOB. Where I am getting married is a beautiful barn (for all the stuck up people before they judge) and the venue is decorated already and has two bars set up but the owners STRONGLY suggested I tell my guest to bring their own alcohol that way I would not be held liable if anything were to happen to anyone (god forbid) after they left or even at the venue. Everyone who is coming doesn't care as long as they can drink because the place I was going to have it before didn't even allow alcohol at all. I think if you tastefully tell your guest and try to make sure they know so they are prepared it is perfectly fine! Like she said, it is YOUR day. Who cares what anyone else thinks. You also do NOT need to spend money on everyone else. What happened to weddings being about the bride marrying her husband? Seems to me it is a big show case of who can out do who nowadays. I just cannot believe what all you said to that poor girl! Thank you Adri for being the only smart person on here!