BYO Food in Fredericksburg, VA

@wifey well if you want your friend to be stuck in the kitchen all day while you have your PPD then so be it. But most likely you'll have to do a good chunk of the cooking a few days to a week in advance.

You know, these threads just make me sad. They used to irritate me because I really didn't want any other brides to think that bare bones/pot luck/self-catered weddings were acceptable ways of keeping the budget low. Now, I find myself reading these horrible ideas and asking, "Ladies, where's the pride?"

The OP is pitching in $500 to offset the cost incurred by her "set of friends" who are putting together an odd wedding menu of pasta and mashed potatoes (and that combo can't even be washed down with a glass of wine)...a microscopic $2.50 per guest out of her pocket. Where's the pride? Another bride is supportive of this mind-numbing indifference, and she introduces the idea of plastic dollar store tablecloths, friends smoking meat, and she has no problem with the idea of three individuals standing in the hot July sun to set up the decor and food at her park wedding. Where's the pride?

The word "entitlement" isn't even used properly by these brides as they sling that accusation at brides who are hosting properly. Entitled means, "believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment." A couple who works, takes on second jobs, saves, sacrifices, and waits, are the opposite of entitled people. They should be called "industrious", "motivated", "focused", or "diligent" -- but, according to those who aren't willing to take the long, hard road to a properly hosted wedding, their counterparts are merely displaying their sense of entitlement. And then, in an irony of all ironies, the very people who believe that they absolutely deserve the special privilege of having a 100 - 200 guest wedding without being able to pay for it, are unaware of how incorrectly they're using the word.

You can treat your guests like first class passengers on a luxury liner (even if the guest list is 20 people), or you treat them like steerage passengers. If you choose the latter, I have to ask again, where's the pride?

@Centerpiece.....well said, well said!

Jesus feed people with two loaves and fish. Anything is possible. IJS

Honestly you and FH need to do a destination wedding. Once you get your finances together then do a party later on.

Tell your guests to BYOB too!!! Ew. Ew. Ew...

Wait until you can afford a wedding.

No, this is not possible and that was a myth Jazz. A lovely myth, but a myth.

Just stop.

235 posts later and there is still debate. There is no debate. It's a shitty, awful, cheap, rude idea.

This is not how you treat 200 people if you want any of them to speak to you again.

The end for Celia

This is the thread that never ends... It just goes on and on my friend...

The thread still lives lol wow I can't believe wifeytobe... guess there always has to be at least one

Pepeto approves.

You know, much like what brought this thread back this time, it will also take a biblical miracle for this thread to finally die.

Amanda, STOP HIDING YOUR POSTS. Seriously. You've already done that on this very thread. Damn.

I only commented a period because I'm on mobile and to lazy to scroll all the way down , seeing as it has got you all pissy ill leave the period just for you

. Shout out to swine that period is for you !

LOL. Swine. Good one Amanda. Hats off to you.

Btw... who even are you?

@swin who the fuck are you lol

I'm 21 and engaged, and we're also paying for our own large budget wedding, BUT we are hosting and treating our guests right food/drink wise. If the sides of your family are all that close to you, they will know and understand that you cannot afford to feed them. Have an earlier reception or cut down your list.

So I just figured I would come back to drive y'all crazy. I have not cut my guest list and I have moved the date up to August. We are doing a dessert, hors d'oeuvres, and punch reception around 6pm and letting our guests know what to expect. To make it even better We are doing it in my parents beautiful huge front yard because it will be warm. We are still going to have some friends help get the food and drinks ready. AND still are having no alcohol for religious purposes.... and please tell me my wedding will suck because of that because we all know you can't have a good time unless there is alcohol. I am so excited to show y'all the after math pictures.

Why cant we delete responses here!