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Buyer's Remorse?

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So, I have never been part of wedding planning such as being a bridesmaid. I didn't know much of what to expect other than having a budget and having ideas in mind for what kind of dress I'm envisioning for my wedding. I also researched boutiques in my area in narrowed it down to one that I was pretty sure I'd get my dress at and two other ones I thought might be nice to just check.

I had my first bridal appointment yesterday. The stylists were super sweet, attentive, and helpful! After trying on about 7 dresses, I chose the 3rd one I had tried on. I love it dearly and it definitely fits the bill of what I've been envisioning for my wedding day and all the dresses on my Pinterest board (Adore by Justin Alexander). But I will admit that perhaps I got swept up in the moment because before I knew it I was signing paperwork and placing a downpayment on the dress. I was pretty confident about the dress until I got home and started thinking about how I didn't browse at other stores, am I crazy for choosing a dress at the first store, and about whether I was fully embracing this once-in-a-lifetime experience. I know, I overthink just as much as I overexplain (i.e. this post xD).

The dress has a $150 cancelation fee and a 24 hour window to cancel. I called the boutique and explained my situation through tears and they were kind enough to extend my window until this Friday evening so that I can check out other stores and dresses. So, I booked an appointment today at one of the other boutiques I was eyeing. Lo and behold I found another dress that's also really gorgeous. It's a trumpet silhouette with lots of lace and tulle, hugs my curves, and makes this 4'11 gal look taller. However, I'm feeling thrown off because I never envisioned a trumpet silhouette so I didn't expect to seriously consider wearing one for my wedding day.

Both dresses are priced about the same, but the second dress will also tack on $100 more for the cap sleeves, tax, and the $150 cancelation fee for the first dress. I also have a third and final appointment tomorrow at another store, so I might be left with another dilemma.

Should I keep my first dress or take the $150 loss and go for another one?

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Latest activity by Virginia, on September 13, 2020 at 2:51 PM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle Online ·
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    I love your first dress without the sleeves ‘
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  • P
    Beginner July 2021
    P ·
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    Thank you!

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  • Lisa
    Beginner January 2022
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    First dress with sleeves is my favorite -- but even without sleeves I think it's more flattering than the other.

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  • V
    Savvy April 2021
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    Honestly, when you close your eyes what dress do you think of? Which dress makes you want to run down the aisle? When you wake up in the morning, which dress do you think of first?

    You look great in both dresses but honestly which is the one you just can not live without/ your wedding would not be complete without.
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  • Marabeth
    Devoted September 2021
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    They are both beautiful but I love the first without the sleeves. But as Victoria said, when you close your eyes and picture your wedding day, which dress do you picture yourself in?
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    The choice is yours. Go with your gut not with the opinions of others.
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  • M
    Dedicated May 2021
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    The last dress gives you such a nice shape, so that’s easily the winner for me. I’m similar height so I get it 😂
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    I personally LOVE your first dress. But words of advice: Once you've found your dress, stop shopping for other ones because you will continue to find yourself in this predicament. If cost isn't a problem then so be it, but if you will lose out on money I wouldn't keep looking. You can always put a dress on hold and come back to it if you really like it, but if you aren't sure don't buy it!

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  • Chelsea
    Savvy June 2021
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    Love the dress with the sleeves, this is gorgeous
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  • Jessica
    Savvy February 2021
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    I like the first dress with sleeves, though without sleeves is pretty too! The skirt has a beautiful shape on you. And there's no shame in finding your dress at the first place you go to. There are lots of pretty dresses out there, but when you find one you love, you find one you love! It can be that simple - it was that way for me too! Just don't look back once you've made a decision or you'll drive yourself crazy 😁
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  • Michelle
    Expert May 2021
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    Love the first dress the most!


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  • Brittani
    Beginner July 2021
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    I'm in a similar place- I've been to 4 different stores and at each store I've found a dress that could be "the dress," compared to all the other dresses at that particular store. That's ultimately the goal of each boutique- to narrow down the dresses out of their selection to find the ONE that you like best. So, now I have 4 dresses that could be "the dress," and very limited ability to try them on side by side! And I have honestly liked all 4 dresses about the same. Also, I've found that after trying on so many dresses, I start to get confused about what I like and dislike, and how each dress felt. And I'm getting less excited about each dress- I think I'm getting dress fatigue! Lol.

    Anyway, all this to say- there's going to be more than one dress out there that you love and that would be perfect for your wedding day. Give yourself a few days to marinate on the top two dresses so far, and see which one you feel more confident picturing yourself in at your wedding. Sometimes your brain needs a day or two to let the idea of a dress sink in, before you can feel comfortable deciding. Don't feel like you need to go to every single boutique- you'll undoubtedly find 1 dress that you love best at each place, and you'll just end up more confused!
    Also, you look absolutely stunning in both dresses- no matter which one you ultimately pick, it's going to end up being the perfect dress for you, because it's the one that you picked.
    Last piece of advice- I narrowed down my decision by asking myself, "which dress would my FH like best?" There was a clear answer to that question, and it actually was not the dress that I personally liked best. But I personally want to be confident that my FH is going to adore my dress, so I went with that one.
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  • Noelle
    Expert November 2019
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    I love the first dress on you. It’s beautiful. I’d stick with it and stop shopping. But it’s ultimately your descision.
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  • Taran
    Expert September 2020
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    I love the first dress! It's gorgeous on you and looks great with and without the sleeves. Plus you said this is what you've always envisioned yourself in

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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
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    I think both dresses are beautiful but I like the first one on you better.
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  • CountryBride
    Super April 2022
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    I love the second one it’s stunning
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  • Jasmine
    Rockstar August 2021
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    I love the first dress but it's still hard to decide with sleeves or not. Both ways are still very pretty!

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  • Margaret
    Master October 2020
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    The first dress without sleeves is gorgeous and I think it elongates you just fine.

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  • A
    Devoted October 2021
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    I think the first dress with sleeves is gorgeous, I love that off the shoulder look Smiley love

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  • MOB So Cal
    January 2019
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    My first thought is if you are truly conflicted about your choice, I'd cancel the dress you've ordered and then give yourself some time to shop more and try additional dresses, so you feel certain about your choice...even if you ultimately go back and reorder the current dress $150 is a relatively small loss. But, if you really do love the dress you've ordered and are just getting in your own head with ideas of "what dress shopping should have been," I'd keep the dress you chose/love and, as others have suggested, STOP LOOKING/SHOPPING because you're just setting yourself up for stress and potential financial losses.

    Daughter was concerned she'd make a choice and then regret it, so she committed ahead of our first shop visit to NOT make a decision while in a store for the first time. The second store we went to was DB, and as expected, they did try REALLY hard to pressure her into an immediate decision regarding a dress she liked a lot. When she was almost really to give in and buy it, she asked what I thought and I reminded her of her plan to not make a snap decision. She then asked the saleswoman to make an appointment for her to come back in a week and we continued on with the rest of her scheduled appointments. By the fourth salon, she had a much clearer vision of exactly what she wanted, so as soon as she tried on what would become "her dress" in that store, we both knew it was the one without any doubts. She ordered her dress 16 months before the wedding and received it about a year before. As far as I know, she never looked at another dress after that and LOVED her dress...and, even now, more than 18 months after her wedding, she still does. Good luck! Smiley heart

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