So my mom, FH, and I have all been butting heads on the topic of flower girls and ring bearers. My FH has 1 niece and 2 nephews, while I have 3 girl cousins and 3 boy cousins. By the time we get married in 2022, we'll have 2 girls that are eligible to be fgs and 4 boys for rbs. To make it fair for both sides of the family, my FH and I agreed that we do one each. Youngest from each side. So one of his nephews will be the ring bearer, and my youngest cousin will be a flower girl.
My mother (who is Filipino), insists that we have 2 flower girls and 4 ring bearers...which we think is overkill. She keeps telling me how 'they'll look so cute and love walking down the aisle', but I honestly could care less. I've told her that it's not the fgs day, it's our day. Our wedding is very minimalistic and simple, and to have that many fgs & rbs is just mind blowing to me. She even went to my aunts who are each a mother of a fg option, and tattled about me not wanting them both. I don't want their feelings to be hurt, but doing one of each just seems the fairest way to us. My mom even went so far as to bribe me, saying that she'd send us wedding money monthly until our wedding day, but only if we made both girls a fg! I told her I was disappointed at her actions and appalled that she would go this far just because she thinks it 'will look cute'.
Has anyone dealt with this? I'm just getting frustrated with her belittling our decisions and opinions.