Busy maid of honor= stress.. I am going to need more help... Make 2 maid of honors?

No maid of honors are not automatically supposed to help with all of that. They don't even have to of you ask.

I would let her know you would like it if she went let her know ahead of time (not the day before) when you are going. I don't think you should expect it automatically or get upset she can't if she has a reason not to.

No, they are entitled to their own life. They don't automatically have to rearrange their schedule or put their own life on the back burner for your shopping trips, vendor meetings, and/or DIYs. Shopping trips other than for their own dresses, should be treated like any shopping you have ever done together i.e. you ask her ahead of time, and if she can than she will and if she can't than you suck it up and ask your other friends/family members. If you can't handle the vendors alone nag your FH, it's not your MOH's wedding so not her vendor decisions. If you're doing DIYs that you can't handle without a/multiple helpers than you need to rethink your DIY choices. You can ask people if they would be willing to help, but they can say no.

It would be too much to expect that either of them pull your slack.

Why can't your fiancé help you with his wedding? My bridesmaids have done nothing like that for me and I certainly wouldn't ask them to put their lives on hold for our wedding. Do what you and your fiancé can handle

I'm not necessarily asking for her to put her life in hold more of just volunteer her time when she has it. I never hear from her. I just thought a maid if honor would ask if you need help and want to accompany me. I do have my finance who does attend things. Certain things I would want a girls opinion on though. I even feel like when it comes down to the bachelorette party and wedding she won't be involved.

Is she a planner by nature? Like likes planning dinner parties and stuff? If not than she's not likely going to be interested in wedding planning, because it's just not her cup of tea. Just call her and ask like "Hey, I'm going *insert whatever* shopping on *insert day* and hoped you could come along, and grab some lunch/dinner afterwards? It'd be more fun if it were a girls' day instead of an errand." Like you would have for anything else you wanted to do with her. People cannot read minds(well, I can't).

Maybe she doesn't know you want help which is why you should ask her. Maybe she thinks you would rather have your fiance go with you.

What are you asking her to do this far out? If its dress shopping- just give her at least a week notice.. But I think MOH Duties kick in closer to the wedding...

Thanks ladies.. I think I feel this way since my other bridesmaids are constantly responding to my texts right away. When they see something they think I would like for the wedding they show me or call. I guess part of it I feel like the bridesmaids are more involved than my own maid of honor. She responds to my texts days later. I will just text her if I do go places and hopefully she can attend some of the trips. If not i will choose a 2nd maid if honor to help out on the other things

How much in advance are you letting her know you are going? Have you tried calling instead of texting? Sometimes texts get lost or phones act wierd (sometimes my phone won't go off so I don't know I have a text).

But that just sounds like differences of personality(some people can't get enough of weddings others really aren't into them), and imo you shouldn't choose your bridal party based on how much they do for you but how much you value their friendship.

My MOH hasn't come with me for anything yet. She would if I asked her, but I go shopping spur of the moment.

My MOH has asked me quite a few times if I need her to come to any appointments with me, if there's anything she can do, ect... but she loves weddings and she also knows my FH hasn't been in the U.S. these last 3 months when I've been planning everything. I wouldn't expect these things of her, but I have definitely appreciated it!!! I did ask her to go to a food tasting with my mom (I don't live in the state where our wedding will take place) but I gave her a months notice. As for having a second MOH... if your bridesmaids are close friends of yours, I don't think they would mind helping you out if your MOH is busy as long as it's reasonable and they're given enough notice.

You should hire a wedding planner.