Our dresses are similar I went with the second bustle can’t remember what it’s called right now. I like 1)how it lifts the train without drawing too much attention to my butt and 2) it’s the most flattering.
In order of preference #2, #1, then #3. The first option draws attention to your butt, which could be a pro or a con depending on your opinion. I personally don't like the way the fabric drapes in the third option at all do it is my least favorite. The second option is stylish and fits very well with the lace and the design of your dress.