I'm so utterly disappointed right now. I had agreed to let FH figure out the music with the understanding that we would just borrow the equipment from someone he knows. It's all he had to do, figure out the logistics, I'd handle the music selection.
Months go by and still can't get ahold of the person who's supposed to be lending him the equipment. Three weeks until the wedding, and I realize if I keep waiting on him to figure it out we are not going to have ANY music. So yes, I became stressed, especially because I felt he wasn't taking my concerns seriously.
2 Weeks until the wedding and I'm pretty proud that I've stayed within budget. Yeah I would be stretching it with getting my nails done but still within budget. Still thinking I can at least reach out and rent the music equipment rather than hiring a DJ, but I still was looking at both options. Maybe finding a college student to handle the music or something cheaper.
Then fiance said he found a DJ...$250.00. I was doubtful, but average is about $300.00. Not a huge difference in price, totally believable, especially if they were out for the experience. I transferred the money to our joint account & fiance paid. He handled the transaction, I didn't get to see the contract, that was Tuesday.
Thursday I finally got to talk to the DJ over the phone. Very good experience. Very professional. This guy was a veteran (like, with the Department of Defense), but I also knew instantly he was a veteran in the industry as well. Over 12 years of experience, actually. There is no way this guy only cost $250.00.
I mentioned fiance how proud I was that we were actually going to make it without going over budget. Just the way he commented on it.. I knew something was up. So I dug deeper. He swore up & down that the DJ only cost $250.
I asked to see the bank account, he showed it to me and I didn't notice anything out of the ordinary, except that the DJ had not pulled the payment yet. I asked to see the contract. He wouldn't let me see it on the computer.. but he showed me a screenshot. The contract was pretty much worthless. only showing who the parties were and the date and contact information.. It made me feel uneasy but I let it go.
Today I looked at our accounts. He pulled the rest of the money from the emergency savings. That's why I didn't notice it on Thursday because he didn't show me that one and I didn't check.
Total cost? $500.00. considering I still have other stuff to pay for, it definitely puts us over-budget by almost $300.00. Not including the cost of the mini-moon.
I'm disappointed that I went over-budget, disappointed that he overtly lied and tried to keep stuff from me, disappointed that he went and made a major financial decision for our wedding without consulting me and what pisses me off even more, is that he didn't sound the least bit contrite about it.
I'm so pissed, disappointed, and hurt I just want to cry. I realize $300 above budget is not that much in comparison. Some brides go thousands... but this was not his decision alone to make. I'm just not excited about this stupid wedding anymore. Right now I feel like he totally killed all excitement about that there was..
IDK. I'm probably over-reacting but I'm pretty sure that I was actually about to get an offer within budget from a high school friend that I had talked to about it previously. He had reached out and asked if there was any money left in the budget, he was just looking to make something extra this weekend and he knew what my budget was from the beginning.
I don't know..I'm just REALLY sad right now. Enough to not even want the wedding at the moment.
