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BS RSVP Excuses

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SSJKarigan, on July 25, 2017 at 8:30 AM

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Everyone complains that getting people to RSVP can be a huge pain in the ass. I've gotten to the point where I need to start reaching out to people who have not RSVP'd yet... it's going about as well as I would have guessed, and though some declines are expected (and some unexpected that sting a little), what I cannot abide are the BS excuses some people give - I would much rather they simply decline and leave it at that, rather than tell me that they can't miss a few hours of a 4-day tabletop gaming convention (that I had never heard of) to make it to my wedding (even though I went to theirs which was 4 hours away). Yea, yea, nobody cares about my wedding as much as I do, but that doesn't make it hurt my feelings any less... of course I'm not going to call them jerks or guilt trip them about it, but I will remember that they chose to go to a convention that happens every year rather than my wedding. FYI I usually go to an anime convention every year - I would skip it for a wedding.

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Master March 2018
Orchids · on July 25, 2017 at 1:17 PM
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Look, Gen Con is really special to my FH and his group of friends. It's the one time a year he gets to see a lot of them. This year in particular it's their 50th year...hard as hell to get into and get tickets and yeah...We would probably skip a wedding for someone we weren't super close to if it fell over Gen Con. I'm sorry it hurt your feelings, but consider that it might be more than *just* a con to them.
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Master January 2017
MMB · on July 25, 2017 at 1:21 PM
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I had some family members call the day of the wedding and basically say that they didn't feel like getting out of bed or the house. I probably would have preferred for them to no-show without an explanation.

RSVP was the single most annoying process of wedding planning for me. Sorry you're having to deal with this.
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MS. MACMEN · on July 25, 2017 at 1:23 PM
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Ouch, I hear ya. I know you'll still have an amazing event with those that do come, but I'd be kind of upset too.
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Expert September 2017
bitbit · on July 25, 2017 at 1:32 PM
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I feel you. We got our first decline yesterday from FH's boss. She texted him and told him she was declining because her wife hates weddings. Uhh?
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Super September 2017
Hbanana1111 · on July 25, 2017 at 1:32 PM
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Ugh I totally understand. Even though we haven't sent ours out yet I'm sure my uncle and FHs family won't attend (they're Mennonite so don't approve.) It sucks for sure but like @Kate said, I just remind myself of the money I'm saving. Sorry OP!
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Master January 2017
MMB · on July 25, 2017 at 1:34 PM
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Right, Kate? I think my whole dad's side of the family thought the wedding was super casual, because they were all no-shows. *side eye*
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VIP August 2017
SSJKarigan · on July 25, 2017 at 1:45 PM
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@Lucille That's the whole point. I don't want to hear WHY someone isn't coming. I just want a damn yes or no so I can get my numbers to my vendors on time.
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FutureMrsBurroughs · on July 25, 2017 at 1:48 PM
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Every single time I read rsvp posts it scares me even more about the process! Lol. I agree with you, OP that I would rather people decline than give me a BS excuse.
@Kate, I am in the same boat and praying for some declines! Our guest list has grown and though we can afford to host the people we are inviting, I don't want to. Lol.
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Colleen · on July 25, 2017 at 1:55 PM
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One of my cousins, who I haven't seen in years and didn't expect to come, rsvp'd Yes a week after the deadline for him, his wife and their 4 children. Two days before the wedding, he messaged me and let me know they would not be coming after all because they were moving that weekend. Ummmm.... you didn't know this before? Also, I mentioned it to his brother who was surprised to hear that. Yeah...they never moved. I don't know why he bothered to rsvp at all. I wish I would have trusted my gut and not included them on the final count, would've saved me over $600. Thanks a lot...grrr
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Devoted September 2017
Nicole · on July 25, 2017 at 1:55 PM
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Im sorry thats happening to you. It would be nice jf people just declined via rsvp.
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New · on July 25, 2017 at 2:40 PM
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Some people are ( * ) s
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Master December 2016
Elizabeth · on July 25, 2017 at 4:21 PM
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"@Lucille That's the whole point. I don't want to hear WHY someone isn't coming. I just want a damn yes or no so I can get my numbers to my vendors on time."

Ok, but you don't get to control the world and what everyone else chooses to tell you. I'm sorry and perhaps it's just me, but this sounds like a petty reason to be upset. Just move on.
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